When this happens?

Hi Guys, newbie here.

Basically my GF of nearly a year admitted on a recent solo holiday she had sex with the guy that installed the gas where she was staying.

I thought I could handle this because I strayed in the early days of our relationship. Turns out I cant. I want to know all of the intimate details of this fling and feel as though she really betrayed me. Its like she is telling me it was just sex and the were both partially clothed at the time, obviously sans underwear but I just dont believe her.

We are on a break right now because I just cant look at her anymore withought thinking thats what this guy was looking at.

I think I need to dump her, but how??

how long have you been together? how old are you? do you have kids?

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Originally Posted by mr dave [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

Basically my GF of nearly a year admitted on a recent solo holiday she had sex with the guy that installed the gas where she was staying.

I thought I could handle this because I strayed in the early days of our relationship. Turns out I cant. I want to know all of the intimate details of this fling and feel as though she really betrayed me. Its like she is telling me it was just sex and the were both partially clothed at the time, obviously sans underwear but I just dont believe her.

I think I need to dump her, but how??

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She cheated on you, no matter how she tries to justify it in her mind (it was 'only' sex and they both were dressed).

Of course you feel betrayed, the trust is broken between the two of you. If she would have stabbed a knife in your back, it probably would have been easier.

How do you dump her? You tell her to get the hell out of your life and stay out of it. You break all contact with her.

Then you take time for yourself, give yourself time to heal from this.

It's going to be crappy for a while, but eventualy it will get better.

Did he force her or did she lead him on? Is there anything in that story that could be redeeming of her?

I don't know. If you can't trust her anymore then it's probably best to just end it.

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Originally Posted by Mishanya [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

Did he force her or did she lead him on? Is there anything in that story that could be redeeming of her?

I don't know. If you can't trust her anymore then it's probably best to just end it.

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There's no redemption in cheating unless she was raped which isn't cheating.

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Originally Posted by Yggdrasil [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

How do you dump her? You tell her to get the hell out of your life and stay out of it. You break all contact with her.

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This is the easy part from a method standpoint. You owe her nothing, you don't even need to explain it. I would just tell her to straight up get out and go do my own thing. That would be the last time that person would ever talk to me.

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Originally Posted by Cbrider [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

This is the easy part from a method standpoint. You owe her nothing, you don't even need to explain it. I would just tell her to straight up get out and go do my own thing. That would be the last time that person would ever talk to me.

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Yeah but not everybody has the kind of backbone, self esteem, self worth, discipline, you name it, required to do it that way.

Some first have to be seriously and severely hurt, backstabbed, drowned, brought back to life, hung, decapitated, shot, reanimated and given a serious tittie twister before they say: ENOUGH!

What she did was completely unacceptable. Tell her that what she did was too damaging to the relationship to repair it.

I think it's beyond weird that you're even considering staying with her.