So close but no cigar. The anticlimax...

So this is something that I'm sure every girl has experienced. The pure frustration of not being able to climax. If you want something done right you gotta do it yourself. And it's true but I really want to be able to come during intercourse. I get soooo close, but it suddenly disappears, out of reach...

I've been with my boyfriend for a couple of months now, unbelievable relationship. My first normal boyfriend. I accidently wound up with a winner. i like him very much and might even be in-like with him. But I have a problem that has plagued me since the first time. I can't come no matter what he does (oral [too ticklish!], fingering[he's still learning how to use his hands], if positions were multi-colored I've done all the colors in the rainbow) It gets to that point where both parties get frustrated. I think he's actually having sympathy anticlimaxes...

Are there any tips or an age limit when this actually ceases to be a problem?

When was it that you overcame this problem and how did accomplish it?

Use something to help.

If you know how to do it, you should TEACH him. He would probably be grateful.

I would do this before using any toys. You don't want to become dependent upon them.

Well, Im definitely not a toy type of person. And we are definitely open to conversation on this subject. I mean, it's not like he doesnt know and I tell him that something isnt working.

Is there a big psychological thing going on here?

I really want to know if anyone has ever succeeded in overcoming this obstacle and how it was like for them.

To be honest, you should try to divorce yourself from any conscious thought of him during the act, at least until you have worked this out. Do not consider what is good/pleasant for him. Use him like a sex toy. Keep your eyes closed, and tell him just to lay there and be quiet.

There will be time to address his pleasure when you are done.

Try rubbing your clit while he thrusts.

yes try rubbin your clit and find a position for him to get to your g-spot.. im sure with both stimulated youll get to the promised land