Girl from work-hard to get/uninterested?
Where I work, there's this girl...
I'm a manager, not supervisor, of a waitress where I work. I'm uninvolved in the restaurant operation-so it wouldn't cause too much of a stir. She is working for the summer and will go back to school in about 2 weeks-however, her school is only 45 minutes from where we currently are-and that's nothing in terms of travel for me-I have to go 25 minutes to get groceries! Anyway, she's much more talkative and responsive to me than anyone else. She's rather shy, I might add, but never has been with me. We have done things in groups before and last week, she and I drove down 30 minutes to meet two other people to have dinner-then came back to the area we live in and sat in her car for 45 minutes chatting. Sounds promising, right?
We've been talking about going to see a new movie at the theater-possibly today or tomorrow-for about a week. She's a nascar fan (I swear she's the exact opposite of what you'd expect a nascar fan to be-I don't even think her family is into it that much) and the race was delayed today so tonight's out-but tomorrow I offered and she's going bridesmaid dress shopping with another mutual friend/coworker. I suggested the other girl come along too. I'd have to drive about 45 min to meet them-and I thought I'd talk to the other girl and see if she'd do dinner-but then ditch the movie-I'm quite sure she would... This is assuming we go... I offered that as an option-but didn't receive a reply (why can't people just talk on the phone any more?).
At least 3 people from work have said "She's into you." Nothing she's said, they just see how she interacts with me versus others. She has a boyfriend-sort of...he's on some 2 year pilgrimage that Mormon's do and she's talked to him once on the phone in the last year-not much of a relationship...I believe she may use it as a safety net when people ask if she's got a boyfriend...it's a strange situation. She's never discussed that with me and in fact, when she was talking about it with someone else the other day at work and I walked in, she looked like a deer in headlights and quickly changed the subject.
Am I not being forward enough? Is she maybe not interested after all? Is she really too busy? Is she scared to go out on something that seems "official?" I don't know. There are a lot of questions I am asking myself. I take the more sensitive approach-I've been the "nice guy" my whole life, which sucks, but also helps with the women who are worth it. It's finally starting to pay off and nice guys are making headway in my age group-the girls are starting to get tired of dicks.
Anyway-your advice or suggestions are greatly appreciated.
