Was it REALLY necessary to apologize?
Long story short: My ex of over 2 years broke up with me in late February, came back 3 weeks later and promised me "slow reconciliation." A month later, he ends things again. Each time he ended things he did it in a cowardly way, and was extremely cruel and heartless about it. The second time he ended it was over 3 months ago, and we only have had contact once in these 3 months - soon after he ended it, in which he told me he wanted me out of his life forever.
5 days ago, I get a text from him. It was at 12 in the afternoon, so he wasn't drunk or anything. He said hi, asked how I am, and then said he just wanted to apologize for hurting me since he always promised me he would NEVER do that, but he did, and he felt bad; so he thought I should know. I responded telling him I didn't blame him for ending things now that I can see them in hindsight, but that he treated me horribly and I was over it now. He apologized again, and I didn't respond.
Then he started small talk. Asking how my summer's going, how it is being a new aunt, how my dogs, told me some things about his current life - like how he's stopped smoking pot and cigarettes (both of which I had wanted him to quit while we dated). The last thing he said was that the gum has helped him quit, and I didn't respond. Haven't heard from him again. Nothing personal was said, like about us, or missing each other, or meeting up, etc.
Oh, and I should add that around the time that he and I ended things the 2nd time, he met someone from his work. I don't know if this was before or after he ended it again with me, but he did hang out and hook up with her for a short while. This is info that his, now ex, friend I ran into blatantly divulged to me when I ran into him 2 nights ago. They're over now, but I wonder if that plays into why he text me.
So, friends of mine and family are telling me he's likely to text me again, especially since my birthday is in a few weeks. But I'm assuming he just wanted to say sorry, relieve his guilt, and that's it. I'm trying not to read anymore into him contacting me than, "it is what it is" - an apology, the end.
I do miss him and some days want him back, so I'm trying to not let these false hopes cloud my head. But people are telling me he's probably trying to work his way back in since he has nobody else right now. I had been doing so well in coping with my broken heart, until he popped back up RIGHT when I was finally becoming happy, and now he's consuming my thoughts again! His myspace status read, "loving being single and able to do whatev, whenev, what's up fun!" the night before he text me...nobody cares about his damn status but me so it's cool he likes to shove that in my face.
What do you think?
And for what it's worth, he's 22, I'm almost 22, and we were each other's first loves, first long-term relationship, and I was his first sexual experience, etc. He really broke my heart, was SOOO mean, and left me destroyed for months, so it's nice to see he has some sort of conscience for treating me so horribly, but hearing from him just once, even if it is just an apology, has my mind all wrapped around him when I had just finished unraveling it.
