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Best Friend Situation.
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People who dislikes immature and childish topics please read no further.
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Hey Guys.
I need some advice on my situation.
Please help me if you can.
I'm 18, she's 17. i know her for 2.5 years. And i am going crazy here. I started liking her for about two months and couldn't really share it with her. And she is the one with whom i share everything, by everything i mean even a little change in my life. So my feelings for her grew and i told her everything 2 days back. I told her that she's my best friend and that i love her and i want to spend my life with her and living for her.I told her about my dreams with her. She thought it was sweet. The next day we talked and she was normal. i told her that i'm freaking out cause usually i talk to her about my crushes, but now she's my crush. She said its okay and to think that she's two different people. But its weird, i again told her that i love her and i told her i don't know what do with what i'm going through. She said not to think about it much and she'll stop me if i'm stepping over the bar. But i asked her if she was feeling awkward due to my sudden change of talking, she said i was fine. I promised her that it'll go away in 2 months and i told her that i didn't really know how it got me. She said that these happen and its unstoppable. But sometimes i feel that she doesn't want it like this.
To conclude my post, i'll say that i am going a bit crazy. And i don't know what'll happen next and i am dying to know that. I don't whats going on in my mind or her mind. I feel so happy all of a sudden. And its weird aswell. I dont know what'll happen, I dont know whats happening.I'm really confused and i feel like talking to her forever and i go all mushy-gushy now and i have this feeling inside my heart.
Has anyone been through a scenario like this?
Shot note on me:
I'm really inexperienced in this part of my life. Never been in love. Yes liked a girl alot but didn't tell her because i didn't have the guts. So that ended in a crappy way, other than that this girl (my best friend), she was the first one it old that i like, so its really new to me. the whole thing.
Thank you Guys.
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you should watch 500 days of summer, being an inexperienced guy i think you'll be able to relate to it a lot and it would clear a few things up for you. that being said. you are not in love, just overexcited because of your inexperience. i suggest you take time off from you female friend. i understand you treasure your friendship and i'm sure she does too, but if you don't take a break form her, your feelings will not go away and it will probably end up turning into a somewhat uncomfortable situation for both of you. you cannot be so infatuated and her not feeling anything and have a normal friendship. it just doesn't work. so like i said i think you need to talk to her, let her know you need some time away from her to get your feelings straight and get over her, and then you can go back to being friends. better yet, find another girl to worship. hope this helps and good luck :-)
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Thanks Alot! i mean it!. =)
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Hey. First of all, I don't think what you're going through is childish or immature at all. I think it's really quite lovely.
However, and i really don't wish to be condescending at all but what you're experiencing is so natural for someone of your age. There's still so much hormone changes you're dealing with (hence the sadness one minute, joy the next).
What I will say is that I think you're incredibly brave for sharing your feelings to your friend. There are so many people that can't work up the balls to say what they want to.It does sound to me that she just dosn't feel the same way right now. But she clearly values your friendship a great deal and doesn't want to lose you.
My advice is this, try as hard as possible to go back to the way you were with her. Bide your time and maybe she will someday realise that you are a wonderful man and she wants to be with you. However! Don't put your life on hold for her. Live your life, see other girls, take them for what they are (not just replacements for the one you can't have), have faith in yourself and get some experience.
Good luck!
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Oh, and by the way. Try not to take what people say, friends, family or strangers too seriously. It's just opinions. Live your own life.
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Take some time off.
She will not be the only girl you ever love. Over her, onto the next... the good thing about this one is that you still get to keep her (as your friend). So all is NOT lost!