Heartbroken..Cant stop crying..cant even eat..

Okay ive been dating this guy for 1 yr&&9months. We always been off and on. At the beginning it was me breakin up with him whever i got upset. but when it hit the year it was him breaking up with me because of my insecurities and jealousy problems. Everytime we got back together it was because i would beg him a little and always call him. He told me he was tired of always arguring. So i had stopped with my insecurities and jealousy(well at least i wasnt letting him know,unless it really really bothered me)So two days ago he broke up with because i Found out he had a Myspace; at the beginning of the relationship we're agreed to delete our pages. so when i confronted him about it he was denying it. even though there wasnt no picture of him but he had only 2 friends but one of his friend was a girl he use to like back in junior high school/h.s..so i was sure it was him cause of her..And yes it did have his name and his bday..okay wen i confroned him about it he was denyin it..then he was said with my insercuries im pushin him away..and he broke up wit me sayin he doesnt wanna be wit me nomore. i told him all i ever tried t do is make him&us happy and he said well he aint happy.. I know hes going through alot right now because he lost his job and he has no money to bay his bills and is car is the shop and cant take it out till he get the money. Now im wondering if i should call him or not?plz help any advice would be great

btw we both have some insecurites. Sometimes when i dont answer his calls he accused me of cheating on him.

Oh jeeze, you're young aren't you?

No, don't call him, email, text, message, msn, IM, or skype... (did I miss any? I'm sure... but you get the idea.)

Then ring a friend instead, that's why we have them so they can entertain, talk us out of stupid things like CALLING, texting, IM'ing etc. After you called a friend, go out with a friend. Do something that keeps you busy.

Don't say you can't eat, you can you're just choosing to think that you're not hungry- but you are. So eat, if you don't eat you will die. While he may not miss you, I'm sure there will be lots of people who will.

After all this remember:
1- you have friends for a reason, "use" them
2- eat, poo, and shower it's good for you
3- NO CONTACT
4- you have friends, go out
5- NO CONTACT
6- keep busy
7- NO CONTACT
8- your heart ALWAYS heals... especially when you're young
9- NO CONTACT
10- your heart ALWAYS heals.

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Originally Posted by girl68 [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

No, don't call him, email, text, message, msn, IM, or skype... (did I miss any? I'm sure... but you get the idea.)

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haha you forgot just mailing, but yea nobody does that anymore so no point in mentioning it :D

nah if i were you i wont force myself to him anymore..


he broke up with you coz of that myspace thingy.. so lame reason...

dont call him back.. and move on.. give time for yourself.. like what girl68 have said...


enjoy life without him coz you dont need i guy like him :D

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Originally Posted by Shortydime [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

Okay ive been dating this guy for 1 yr&&9months. We always been off and on. At the beginning it was me breakin up with him whever i got upset. but when it hit the year it was him breaking up with me because of my insecurities and jealousy problems. Everytime we got back together it was because i would beg him a little and always call him. He told me he was tired of always arguring. So i had stopped with my insecurities and jealousy(well at least i wasnt letting him know,unless it really really bothered me)So two days ago he broke up with because i Found out he had a Myspace; at the beginning of the relationship we're agreed to delete our pages. so when i confronted him about it he was denying it. even though there wasnt no picture of him but he had only 2 friends but one of his friend was a girl he use to like back in junior high school/h.s..so i was sure it was him cause of her..And yes it did have his name and his bday..okay wen i confroned him about it he was denyin it..then he was said with my insercuries im pushin him away..and he broke up wit me sayin he doesnt wanna be wit me nomore. i told him all i ever tried t do is make him&us happy and he said well he aint happy.. I know hes going through alot right now because he lost his job and he has no money to bay his bills and is car is the shop and cant take it out till he get the money. Now im wondering if i should call him or not?plz help any advice would be great

btw we both have some insecurites. Sometimes when i dont answer his calls he accused me of cheating on him.

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By reading your "story".. seems like you are over thinking. You should realize it were your problems that made him do this. It was just a myspace... come on..

I am actually overprotective to my love also, she said she doesn't like it and I've stopped (not fully, because insecurity is a big turn off).


Give him some time.. if he loves you, he will come back.
Keep yourself busy in this mean time. Watch movies, cartoons (if you are young).. XD and friends.

I would disagree with not keeping any contacts with him. Give him a chance to say sorry. No one is perfect anyway.

Let me tell you a story.

There was a man and a woman. Love each other. To cut off the nuts, someone interrupted and made them quarrel. The man does not trust the woman while the woman scare the fact. The man is afraid but wanted to know the truth while the woman is too shy to ask it.

They broke up.

The reason they broke up, isn't because that someone interrupted, is because... they never try to talk to each other. Just call him out and try to talk to him. If it is because he lost the job or whatever and don't want to let you suffer... This is a true love~

Anyway, you should tell him that... Even... one who touched your heart, even once... or a tiny bit, is called... LOVE. Just don't care about the environment, love him/her all you want~ (Unless you will really make her unhappy, but I am sure that he/she will be more unhappy if cannot be with you)

Ok I used to do what you did, I used to break up with my ex everytime I got upset about something, and then when he started doing it I didn't like it. So what he had a myspace everyone these days has one it's no big deal. Why bother him about it, you ever thought that someone else could have set it up? It don't take a lot to set one up. Either way it's stupid what you did. Once you asked him about it you should have let it lie unless he gave you a actual reason to bring it up again. I learnt the hard way by breaking up with him all the time, this does wear relationships down. I say you should not contact him unless he contacts you and even if he does contact you then maybe you both should start off as hanging out as friends, actually spending time having fun getting to know each other, taking things slowly. Then maybe if you get back together instead of saying you will delete myspace and crap just say you will make sure nothing is hidden from each other, or do a joint one that you can enjoy together.

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I think you should start working on improving yourself. You're stuck in a cycle which you should attempt to break free of.

Part of the cycle is becomming involved with the wrong type of males.

You know, don't take this the wrong way, and I don't want to be overly harsh, but if you both are so insecure, then you have NO business being in a relationship anyway! You should work on yourself and focus on building your self esteem and confidence...complaining about having a "MySpace" page is about the lowest you can get with inmaturity!

Trust starts with being confident that the person you are with wants to be with you and loves you for you! What you both have had is a game. It's time to stop this garbage and take care of you and start to improve yourself!

When you can start having the confidence in yourself that someone wants to be with you for you alone and won't just go out and cheat on you, then you will be able to have a good relationship.