Wife/Foreign Country VS Ex Girlfriend/Home Country (HELP!)
Hi there,
I'm new here, but certainly not new to the problems love brings along with its joys. Here's my dilemma:
I married a lovely girl in another country and left my country, home, and family behind to be with her and her daughter (who is now 13 and VERY opinionated). I married my wife a few years ago and have lived with her and her daughter for about 6 years. I always said I didn't want to live here forever and my wife agreed that we'd all move back to my country in about 5 or so years... however now she is saying she might not want to (I agree- it's a big move)... but I can't live here forever, and I don't want to. Obviously her daughter graduates in 5 years and if she doesnt want to move with us, my wife probably wouldn't want to leave her daughter here in their country (fair enough though... I wouldnt expect her to). Recently, I went back to my home country for a visit and met up with my ex (whom still loves me and we are very close). Nothing happened really, but there was definitely some sparks still there and she told me she wants me back, basically. My wife and I have some problems.. we fight somewhat often and she is about 12 years older than me, and her daughter and I constantly disagree on everything almost. My ex and I are closer in age. On my way back to my current residence country where I live now, all I could think about was how much fun me and my ex had having coffee and lunch and how much I miss her. I guess right now, all I keep thinking about is if I should just throw in the towel on my marriage and head back over to my home country where my family is, and my ex, and maybe try and rekindle things with her. This is obviously a huge step I would not take lightly. I love my family here but right now it just doesnt look very good considering she may not even want to move back to my home country in 5 years. My ex and I are close, and we always got along great and never argued etc. I'd love to hear your opinion on this matter and whatever other thoughts you might have. Please, humor me. Thanks...
-Fidelio
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