Is this over the line by my girlfriend?

My girlfriend and I are in love and been together for over 9 months. We are both over 40 years old. She has this guy who is 52 years old who is married contacting her at least once every or twice every 2 weeks. She says he is just a friend and an old make out buddy from 9 months ago. She says he never was even a boyfriend and she never slept with him.

However, he calls, texts and emails her explicit content and states his intentions that he wants more sexually. He even states he would love to, "eat her wonderfully waxed pussy". Not sure how he knows that it's waxed, except that she is very open about things and would tell someone that. Plus, I've seen some of the steamy emails between them, she was very teasing to him. I tell her that he is not a friend, he is a potential stalker because she has not seen him in 8 months, supposedly.

My dilema is that she continues to contact him back and is friendly and flirty. I feel that she may want to do more with him or is holding on to him as a life line if we do not work out. She even contacts him late at night as well. I feel cheated on already. Please help, should I be concerned about this? What can I do, she refuses to talk anymore about it.

Oh yeah, that's over the line. Friends do not tell "friends" they want to eat out eachothers waxed, delicious pussy.

She's got you wrapped around her little finger if you're believing that this isn't completely inappropriate.

That's so far over the line she can't even see it in the rearview mirror.

wow, you're pretty calm....good for you

it's nothing and says to me, "You have nothing worry about, he's an old fart and it's not like I'm going to accidently fall on his dick". "I know what is appropriate and what is not, you just have to trust me".

This other guy is married with children as well, not separated either. Plus, she often calls him after we have a great night of sex too. I don't get it? Why then?

Yeah, she clearly has a distorted perception of what is "appropriate" or not. I'm sorry but no husband of mine will ever convince me that saying he'd love to suck on another womans pussy, nor calling said woman after a fantastic sack session with me is not crossing the line. I don't care if they screw or not, un-bloddy-acceptable.

You are being played for a fool my friend.

writes. Which I accept, but, she writes back and flirts. Last night, for instance, we had a great wonderful night of sex and love. I then find out, via looking at her phone, she called this guy and left him 2 messages within 10 minutes of leaving my home. I don't get it? Please help me understand. Is she cheating or is she about to?

You're still a scallop wrapped in her bacon. Don't you see? She's TOTALLY got you believing that behaving in this manor is acceptable. How DOES she do it!?

Is she cheating: maybe not... but she is "so far past the line she can't even SEE the line anymore. The line is just a dot to her" From Joey: F.R.I.E.N.D.S.

separated, but has not filed for a divorce and it's been 1.5 years and counting. She likes the attention other men give her. Plus, I caught her having "sex chats" with many other men early in our relationship. These chats were via emails and were so damn explicit and real sounding that it dropped me to me knees. She said it was only chats, similar to a man looking at a Playboy, nothing more.

I don't trust her at all. How do I catch her cheating?

You don't need to catch her cheating. Just ditch her ass before she gives you a disease.

I want to believe that she is not going to cheat on me. That this is just some guy who she likes to tease. She says she loves me sooooo much. Plus, I am paying for her daughters private school education to the tune of $7K and I gave her $10K worth of inventory to sell on ebay from my business to keep for herself. Plus, I moved away from my kids to be near her.

I just feel weird about all this, and I think it may just be me, like she says. Is it me?

one day last week and broke a date with me. She said she was sick and then she said she was mad at me and that's why she shut off all her phones.

Why would someone do that, break at date and shut off all phones?

Then say I love you in the next breath?

She's using you. What a terrible person.

Keep going what else is she using you for? We got attention, money, attention, sex, money, more attention...

*face in palm*

I volunteered to pay for everything. I want to help her out, if not, then she will have to move back home to Ohio with kids and all and blame me for screwing up her kids education, friends, etc. I have to continue paying, unless of course, I find the "red herring" that she cheats on me. Even then, how could I pull the funding from her childs schooling. That would be taking it out on the child.

She moved here to my State because of me. I will pay and support her as much as I can. I'm sort of stuck. I'm in love and now I promised funding for her kids education and she is in school making friends, etc.