How often does you and your significant other fight/ argue?

I was wondering this with other couples because i just got done fighting and arguing with my gf...it was on the phone, it lasted about an hour, and it was over something she said. We ended up settling it before we got off the phone, Thank goodness:lol:

After thinking about this, i think my gf and i fight/ argue about once or twice every 3 weeks...its never over anything serious...just over stupid stuff, we know its over stupid stuff but we still do it anyways. Its all good at the end tho:sinister:

We haven't had much to quarrel over lately.

I think we worked out a lot of the kinks, there's just a few prevailing issues we haven't been able to conquer, but they don't come up even on a monthly basis.

We have stuff that could escalate but doesn't about twice a week. Every two or three weeks, though, we do have what I would call an argument and every few months, a blowout where I cry and it takes days to completely get through.

We're learning how to deal with each other (it's been three years).

We pretty much don't fight. We may have a crappy day and snap at each other briefly, but then we usually end up apologizing ten minutes later and forgetting about it. Otherwise, I think we've had two actual 'fights' over the course of just over two years.

It's the first relationship I've ever had like that though. I used to get in screaming matches with my exes. Think I just had enough of it.

We don't argue that much... usually we can talk things out. Though both of us have a bad habit of taking something small and trying to figure out all the hidden meanings it could have. For me, when that happens he tends to listen to what I have to say then politely explains what he had meant and where I might've misunderstood. For him though, he's more assured of his assumptions -- especially when he feels very hurt, and it takes longer for me to fight against his deductions, conclusions, and logic all the way back to the moment he misunderstood. After he's calmed down and realizes his world isn't crashing down.... then I can usually get an apology out of him.

Neither of us are overly willing to admit to the other when we're worried or hurting (emotionally or physically)... so it takes a bit of coaxing or looking for subtle clues. However, we seem to be trusting each other more and more... so it doesn't take as long to get an admission from each other... and recently, he openly stated what has been on his mind lately without me having to ask or insinuate.

We probably fight once every few weeks over some minor misunderstanding or feel disappointed that the other was so reluctant to share their concerns.

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Originally Posted by bluesummer [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

I used to get in screaming matches with my exes.

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I rarely raise my voice... usually I take on more of a low, biting tone when I'm angry.

The only time I really hollered at my bf was when he kept going on about all he felt I meant and not giving me a chance to speak. When he kept questioning me why I even bother, pointing out all the the reasons I could have for not staying... I answered to his question of what my motives were for staying with something along the lines of "because I love you, you dumbass!"

He looked positively dumbfounded after that... and it did bring the fight to a reasonably quick close.

The first four years of my last relationship we didn't argue much. We had issues but it never got out of hand. The last year and a half of the relationship the arguments started getting worse. We would argue... maybe once or twice in a 2-3 week span in the beginning... and closer to the end... it was everyday it seemed.