Limerence: Thoughts & Experiences
Id be interested in what some of the vets on the forum think about this concept, since I did a search and didn't turn up much of anything useful.
Has anyone ever experienced this? If so do you feel that Limerence is real or that it was merely infatuation. Do you believe Limerence stems from a social disorder of sorts, such as being shy or insecure, or that as some say it represents a higher form of complex social interaction?
If you don't know what it is at least look up the Wiki article on Limerence before replying.
It's essentially an undesired, uncontrollable attraction to someone, often in a way that is very inconveniencing.
Its defining characteristics are that neither a long term relationship nor sex itself is the initial goal, though sex is often part of it. Rather the goal is the attainment of a specific scenario where the sought after partner reciprocates the desired level of affection and intimacy in the context of a specific ideal that the sought after person embodies. A Limerent relationship as it were may go on for weeks or months with no intimate contact at all, and with both parties engaging in what for lack of a better term is a sort of game.
Its second characteristic is that a person becomes in some cases is overwhelmed with thoughts and feelings regarding how to attain this ideal to the point that its invasive.
Open declaration of feelings are often regarded as not an option since that may destroy the possibility of attaining the perceived ideal, unless the open declaration comes at a point which leads to a high probability of attaining ones goal.
Furthermore outright seduction tends to devalue the sought after person both in the act and in retrospect, since full reciprocation of the desired intimacy and affection is the goal.
