My heads a mess....

Hi all

cant believe im posting this online but Im really stuck with what to do!

Basically I work for myself and have managed to get into a relationship with a first year uni student.

Been together 3 months now and think we have a few problems, for a start iv never really been in a relationship before. But this girl seemed nice so thought why not give it a go.

Anyway, why my heads a absolute mes:
she sees me once a week, yet lives only 10 minutes away?
When we go for a few drinks she always drags me to go see her friends in a club after but pretty much ignores me in the club!
When ever I try to get us together in private say watching a film round mine, she will be all up for it, then have an excuse a few hours before
When ever I try to arrange to see her to talk to her, she has an excuse (think we have managed to have a proper sober talk about twice)
Now the big one I only realised yesterday which I really dont know what to think. Shes kissed me once sober
I have tried a number of times to initiate a kiss after a date but shes not interested?


I really dont know if im just thinking into things too much?
My friends think she is a idiot for the way she treats me
Guess this dosent give a full picture of everything but I could just do with some advice that's not 'sack her off and get yourself laid' like half my friends have been saying
I like the girl alot but really don't know what to do, this is just added stress which I really dont need.

None of that sounds good. I'm not even going to get into all the details. Dump her and move on.

yeah this chick doesn't like you, who knows why she's doing it....but get rid of her.

get rid, dont know what shes thinking, but that is not 'normal' relationship behaviour. your better off out of it.

Sounds like she's just enjoying "having a guy" but isn't really interested in all that comes along with relationships. Best to find a chick that returns your feelings in full.

However, if you get rid of her, be prepared for the backlash. She may suddenly start texting you, e-mailing you, coming around more. Be strong and don't let her use you.

sounds like a college female to me. Boys'a'plenty. Move on before you get deeper and get even more confused or hurt over it.