Friend has a mild eating disorder how to handle?
Hello friends!
I have a very good friend I'll call her Mary. Mary comes from money which brings on a whole set of problems as in picking a 'well off' mate and yadda yadda.
Anyways over the summer her 'poor' boyfriend dumped her because he didn't feel the excitement anymore after about 2 years. It was long distance. This took a toll on her.
So after that she started being a helluva lot more anal with her eating habits. She's always been one to not eat much/ encourage everyone else to keep eating. But since the break up she's gotten worse. She started loosing weight. She's already really thin. Think 5'5 105lbs. Yeah, SKINNY. It's gross now.
So here are some examples:
-She won't eat breakfast, eat a pear for lunch and run for an hour to 'work it off'
-She will take a appitizer sized plate and fill it with the same ratio of food to plate as we fill our dinner plates.
-She 'secretly' puts the plate in the sink but takes her fork and scoops some more food in her mouth. (basically she's eating so little she's starving...)
-She will not eat dinner, but we'll got out for appy's and a drink. She will finish half a drink and 3 chicken nuggets and then force us to eat the rest.
-When she does it dinner- it's the most pathetic portion you have ever seen.
Anyways I think it's only mild becasue it's not as extreme as I have seen/ heard of. But she is very thin. Then she complains that her boobs are shrinking. I know that her body is starving and it is eating her ass/ tits. And I told her so.
I need stories, suggestions, ideas how to talk to her, get her into therpy, overcoming body issues, control issues. I don't know how to 'help' her. Yes, I know I cannot 'help' someone who does not want to be helped BUT- what CAN I do?