Hey, im a guy in a relationship with someone who seems determined to be mean to me all the time. I've told her to stop being so mean to me, and she agrees that she is but she doesnt seem to stop. We were just walking somewhere and i said "what should i do tonight?" because she was going to uni and she said "go and clean your flat bitch." It just got to me so i said "I can do that during the day, and dont call me bitch" to which she replied "for **** sake did you take that seriously? You're always so moody. Are you on your man period?" I've been going through a hard time recently so i said "you know im on my man period." And she just said "you're always on your man period."
I know i get too moody, but she's just really harsh with me all the time. We were out the other night and i said "I love you" and she said "I know, **** off." I asked her about it later and she just said that i was being too dramatic. I know she loves me back (because she tells me all the time), and when things are good between us they're really good but it just annoys me that she's so brutal with me. I do have problems with taking things too seriously. Am i just being too sensitive?
I kinda know she isnt going to change. She is just a beautiful rose and subsequently she has a lot of thorns. I just dont want to be the bitch in the relationship. When i choose to ignore her and just brush all this stuff aside she seems more attracted to me. It's just hard to do all the time. Sometimes she just says things that are really insensitive. Its not that the insults get to me, its more the prospect of her doing it. I just think "why should my girlfriend treat me like this?" Im not going to leave her over it, because it isnt that bad. It just disrupts my actions towards her.
We went through a rough patch recently where she was basically deciding whether to be with me. The conclusion was that she really did love me, but this scared her. She feels too vulnerable. So by being mean to me she said she was trying to push me away. To take some seriousness away from the relationship. I think my character is one not to be taken too seriously. I fool around a lot and act like an idiot. So people just take the piss thinking that it wont effect me, but it does. And then i get all broody about it.
Basically, i want to know, am i the bitch? Is there anything i can do about it? Or am i just taking things to seriously? Or is this even making me the bitch in myself? Im not gonna leave her because we still have a good time together and our relationship is generally fruitfull. I just dont want to keep on getting so moody about things because its disruptive.
Cheers!
