please help!

Ok so i'm having the worst week of my life and here's why. I started dating this guy Bryan about 4 months ago. I guess about a month or so b4 that his old girl friend moved out west so the broke it off. I guess they had been on and off for about a year and a half. Anyways... he is the greatest guy i have ever met. and he has been nothing but upfront and honest with me about everything. Well i guess him and his ex left if at whatever happens happens type thing. and b4 we started dating he planned a trip to go out and see her. well thats where he is now. and it's tearing me up. he told me b4 he left he was really nervous to go. so i dont know if thats good or bad. but now i guess she's moving back to chicago in like 2 weeks. so i don't know where this is going to leave me. he comes back home on tuesday and it's killing me to know if he found he still has feelings for her. i know he told her b4 that he;s not just getting back with her b/c she is moving back. so thats good i guess. im just trying not to read into things too far and make myself see things that arent there. i know we have only been dating a few short months and its probably a very small chance that he will come back and pick me.... but is there anyone out there that thinks i might have a chance? :upset:

I'm sure he cares a great deal about you, or else he wouldn't have been up front and honest about the whole situation. I also don't think just because people date for a few months it means that if their ex pops back into their life, they hop over back. Depends on the person, situation, and most importantly how the planets are aligned /nods.
I guess its always best to put yourself in their shoes and look through their eyes and keep an open mind.

all i can say is keep the lines of communication and honesty open at all times. talk this out find out how how feels after the visit. keep us posted xoxo blue

thanks alot. i just needed to hear some kind words about it from anywhere. he's been gone for 4 days and it's been driving me crazy. i wouldn't have every gone through this with anyone but him. i told him that. the fact that he was nothing but honest with me was admirable and something i look for in guys. i was not going to break it off with him b/c he was being honest. so now i sit and wait till atleast tuesday when he comes home. its just so hard. :(

well try to keep busy and are you prepared to hear somthing you may not like?

yes i am prepared for the worst. i've known all along i have to try to come in between a year and a half long relationship which is damn near impossible. i have always known the cards were stacked against me. but i told him that i think that hes worth the chance of getting hurt. even tho i think its almost a certainty

well just know that you will be ok if he chooses to go back to her then its his loss. hang in there xoxo blue

i know i'll be ok. i'm just afraid i will never find anyone else like him again. he'll kinda be like the one that got away... or something like that.

ah you never know and there are plenty of fish out there in the sea and there are alot of great guys out there, there are also alot of assholes too so take your time and dont look when you stop looking thats when it usually happens, neway it sounds like this guy really likes & respects you. whos to say he wont want to be with you?

thats what i'm hoping for. i know he really likes to be be with me. and he tells me all the time what a phenomenal girl i am. so now im just playing the waiting game. and keeping my fingers crossed!

i've got less that 24 hours to go. i'm so excited and freaked out at the same time. he comes in tomorrow at like 10:30 in the morning but i start work at 9:45. i was thinking about calling off or taking some vacation but i dunno. the suspense is killing me!

nah go to work and keep your mind busy ok and if you wnat to talk you know where im at!

ok so it's tuesday night and i just got a call from him..... he says he's staying out there an extra day b/c he spent 3 days instead of 2 in Pheonix visit his friend Paul. So what am i supposed to think? is that like the kiss of death or what?!? :upset:

the waiting game sucks ! it will either be over soon or just begining