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Unrequited Love
I'm 19 and i have this guy friend who lives in another country. We went to the same school but i left the country when i was 16. I had been in love with him ever since. Before that it was more like a crush but i've kept in contact with him through the years. There is this girl he always hung out with and ever since i was gone they've apparently gotten closer, but they're saying that they aren't in a relationship. I'm afraid to tell him about my feelings because of the possible reactions.
Lately i've started drawing portraits, I'm not an artist it's just a hobby. Anyways, I drew his face form a picture. It was the first complete portrait i've ever drawn and it took me lots of time and energy. I told him and he asked if i could scan and send it to him. I did and he was so impressed that he asked me to do him a favor and draw a picture for him. I agreed and he sent me the picture: Him and this other Girl. :mad:
I was shocked, yes i admit i should've gotten over him a long time ago, but i couldn't and i always had hope because we got along so well. Now I don't know what to do. Here are my options:
1. Draw the picture and ignore what feels like the saddest feeling I ever had, but retain his friendship and give up on drawing :(
2. Tell him that i can't, because I have feelings for him and loose him as a friend and give up on drawing. :sad2:
3. Ignore him and his stupid picture for ever and give up on drawing :upset:
I would appriciate any advice given. I'm torn and the truth is that there is no one i can talk to about this.
Thank you
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Life is short. Your feelings right now show me that no matter what, you risk loosing him as a friend. Do you talk on the phone? Do not regret it when you are older and think, I wonder if, I should have. I would find out first if he is in a relationship with her, if he says yes, well there is not much you can do about it. If not, I would say "I have a confession" then tell him. Do not give up on your drawings, its a talent. Ask him to send a different picture.
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No, we don't talk on the phone. We chat online. I thought about asking him, but he hasn't been online yet and i just want to prepare myself for what i'll be saying.
Thank you for your advice.
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Ok I asked him and he said: Yes we are very close. He could sense that something wasn't ok but that stupid moron didn't get it. He said he wanted to make it a present for her and thought that I'm having a problem with that.
He seemed so disappointed that i agreed on drawing the picture but the truth is that I don't. I thought i'd have the courage to tell him. I want him as a friend but what can i make of a friend who constantly makes me sad and i can't even tell him??
I don't want to draw that picture and I need some advice, please.
:sad2:
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Draw a slightly unflattering version of her and a glowing, gorgeous version of him.
Then gloat.
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Hahaha that's actually something i thought about doing! Or i'll draw myself instead of her beside him.... or does that make me look pathetic?
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Draw the photo as best you can, then forget him. Move on and find someone who will love you back.
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^ agreed. No matter how you feel about a piece of work, you should always try to do it the best way you can. Not for him, but for yourself.