I have a man who adores me - so why am I so miserable?
We have been together for 7 years, been living together for about 5. Neither of us are too fussed about the serious stuff yet (marriage, kids etc), we're just enjoying our time together. Although I do love him, over the last year or so I have felt very strongly like there is something huge I have been - and still am - missing out on, and I can't shake the feeling. Is it just the 7 year itch or something more? Should I move on? I feel like I am not being fair to him having these thoughts. My heart doesn't feel 100% in this anymore and I feel terribly restless.
Someone suggested to me that maybe this is more of a best friend/room mate arrangement and I am just very comfortable? Do you think maybe that as well??
I've been thru your experience
Was with a wonderful man for 6 yrs. We had everything in common. He was very supportive emotionally. Intellectually, we were compatible. We could talk about everything. We talked on the phone at least once every day. We lived next to each other. He seemed my perfect other half... but the only thing is I wasn't sure. I felt we were more best friends than lovers.... and it's true. I was not attracted to him in that way. So you need to ask yourself if this man you love attracts you in every way you need, at least enough for you to stop looking around. That's the key. I was still secretly looking around for what else could be available to me... so something was missing. In the end, it all comes down to what type of woman you are, if you can live with this something that's missing. You might regret this man you are with... but think about what you want and if you can be happy with what you have. If not, move on like I did.