Clueless..

Hi everyone..

I have a problem.. maybe I'm the problem and I need someone else to put things in perspective, or to open my eyes. But that's why I'm here.. because I'm clueless and I need help, advice..

problem solved..

i think the answer here is obvious.

enlighten me :-)

you are getting into him emotionally where as for him..its only an sexual arrangement.. the best thing would be tell him your feelings and then see what he says..based on that take a call.. coz i dont think you wud want to be in a emotionally sticky situation when the guy is not interested for a committed relationship.

yeah I know.. I'm getting too emotionallyinvolved.. but the thing is, it's because of the way he acted.. why did he make it more then it was by introducing me to his friends, by asking me for dinner..
I don't get guys..

It's difficult, if not impossible, to establish a meaningful emotional connection AFTER sex has entered the relationship first. You also didn't try to expand upon a one-night stand; you were with him a few times just for physical reasons. A lesson learned, I'm afraid...

The time it takes him to respond to you is a clear message about how involved he's willing to get, or at least the rate at which he's willing to go. He has very rigid boundaries and really, that's a good thing. He's not overcommitting himself or pretending to be something he's not.

Remember to look at the actual facts, here, and not at your own romantic fantasies. You can have a good relationship with this guy if you don't blow it. Maybe he's got a good reason to be so reserved. For all you know, his last boyfriend became completely obsessed with him and pulled a Fatal Attraction move and boiled his rabbit. Accept this for what it is and don't try to force it to grow too fast. He's much more likely to want to stay with you if you're balanced on your own two feet.

yeah I think you're right.. I should stop expecting things and just take it easy and see how things work out..
thanks for the advice.. it helpt a lot!
and the good news is I see him again 2night :-)