Hey guys! So this is the first time I've ever posted on a forum like this, which is a bit scary, but I'm trusting you lovely male people will be able to give me some good advice! ;)
I met this guy before Christmas in my first year of uni. We got along instantly, because we both have similar senses of humour and we ended up chatting for ages the first time we met! Over the last few months, things have been gradually developing.
We pretty much fancied each other since we met, and we were quite flirty with each other. I sent him a V day text (anonymously) a couple of weeks ago, and within 2 days he had figured out it was me who sent it. He's made a special effort with me ever since - we've been speaking every day (usually online or by text, as we only usually see each other on Friday and Sunday night) and he's been really flirty - teasing me a LOT, asking me questions like "are you looking for a relationship at the moment?", and leaving me loads of kisses at the end of our conversations. Let's just say that I've been getting really positive vibes. He's also a pretty private person, but as we've been getting to know each other more, he's been opening up to me about his feelings and fears and things. I was told by one of his friends that he very rarely does this unless he trusts someone.
So things were all looking great! I was really looking forward to seeing him last night, as I hadn't seen him since he figured out that the V day text was from me. But if I'm honest, it was a bit of an anti climax! He spent the whole of the beginning of the evening sneaking glances my way (I don't want to sound arrogant, but a girl can tell, if it's that obvious!). He even turned up wearing the colour that I'd told him a couple of days ago he looked good in (although this may have been a coincidence). Afterwards, he came over to me and a group of friends, and he did his usual jokey, teasing thing with me. When he's around me, he generally smiles a lot, and his body language is angled directy towards me.
However, later we all went to a bar. I don't wanna seem needy, but considering how much interest he's been paying me lately, I expected him to at least make an effort to have a one-to-one conversation with me at one point. Despite the fact he's very much a people person and loves socializing with everyone, that's really the best way of us getting to know each other more! But that didn't really happen. We spoke in groups, with our friends, and he seemed to be loitering near me for most of the night, whether this was intentional or not I don't know. When I left, he gave me this weird sort of pat on the head and ruffled my hair, which I think was his awkward way of not really being sure how to say bye!
So I was a bit disappointed - he's so easy to talk to by text, or face to face, and he definitely seemed to be revealing that he liked me, although when he's with me in person he doesn't seem as responsive! I wasn't expecting his undivided attention, but a bit more acknowledgement would have been nice, and maybe even a sort of hint at how he feels. I don't know if he's just shy. But given that he knows how I feel, I would have thought that if he did like me in that way, he would be making more of an effort to speak to me when we do see each other, as it is only a couple of times a week!
To add to that, when I got back, we were both online - he started the conversation, and we chatted briefly, although his answers were a bit vague and he didn't seem as lively or interested as usual! I said bye pretty quickly, and he didn't leave any kisses, or anything, which made me worry that somehow I'd put him off, or that he'd lost interest.
Sounds pretty pathetic, I know! But it's a bit painful when someone can apparently be quite into you, and then after spending the evening with you in person, can suddenly be not quite as keen to talk to you!! Maybe I'm overanalysing, or he was just in a weird/bad/tired mood. What do you guys think?
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