Problem with Girlfriend, please give me advice!
Hey everyone, I come here seeking advice because I do not know who to go to with this and it is driving me nuts.
My girlfriend and I have been together for a very long time, we love eachother very much. We've even talked about marriage, having kids...spending the rest of our lives together. I don't doubt her, however yesterday we had something neither of us can explan happen.
We were in bed together and as I was touching her, she said to me: "Have you wondered what it would be like with anyone else?" To which I responded: "I don't know...why?" and she said: "Well I was just thinking how it would be to sleep with ____". "blank" being a good friend of mine. I was extremely hurt by this and also felt extremely disgusted. She started to cry as well and said that it was a statement made out of impulse and she does not even find him attractive. Now, I know I am better than him for her and it's not like she even likes him. I KNOW she loves me and just wants me. However the thought of her saying that to me, especially iin that context...killed me.
Ever since, it's been an emotional rollercoaster. She realised it was stupid to bring up something so small and unimportant to hurt someone she feels so much for. She only said it out of impulse and apparently she just needed to tell me because she feels she needs to tell me everything. Ever since, I've gotten extremely angry at her for barely any reason (I guess to subconsciously punish her and make her hurt the way I did) and Ive gotten extremely upset and thoughts of breaking up with her are reoccuring over and over. We want to be together, but how do I deal with this. I find the statement she made was sick.
I appreciate her telling me everything but I feel what she did was selfish and said at a TOTAL DISREGARD for me.
What are your opinions everyone?? Any advice?? Anything would be APPRECIATED!!!!