I'd first like to say hello. I've been a member of this forum since 2004 I believe, but don't use my previous username since I don't want anyone to recognize me; just incase.
Well, my girlfriend and I have been together for 4.5 years now. We have lived together for abour 4 years, and have had three break ups. Last night, was almost the fourth....
We got into an arguement about her having to drive herself to Jury Duty because it's her responsibility. We live almost an hour away from the courthouse and I don't find it fair that I had to drive her and wait for her there. But that's a different story. The conflict was about her family. I've never been the type of guy who gets close to family. I barely say two words to my parents, and my sister and I don't talk to each other anymore. As for her family, they're stubborn, ignorant, and think everyone is against them in some way. They're the type of people that give you a dirty look on the street if they don't like the way you look. I mostly don't get along with her sisters, one older and one younger. The older sister is just a bitch so I avoid her at all costs. The younger one always talks shit...for no reason sometimes. I told my girlfriend that I want to stay away from your sisters because I can't ever see myself getting along with them. Just listening to them makes me sick to my stomach and I want to run away. She finds that a problem, obviously. My girlfriend is the type of girl that if someone can't get along with one of her family members, they she's out. Mind you, she's known this for 4.5 years and she still hasn't left for good.
As for last night, she found is best to have a mutual break up due to the fact that we're total opposites. She's a family person, I'm not. She loves to be around people, I don't too much. She's always laughing and smiling, I'm more calm and laid back. I want to do everything I can to work things out with her, even if I have to see her stupid sisters. Now, I've agreed to a lot of things. She wants me to be more open minded, then I'll go ahead and try. She wants me to get along with her family, then I'll try; but not 100% guarentee. There's things I want her to do as well, that she's agreed to. We sort of made an agreement at the end and promised each other that we'd work things out once agian.
My question is; Are we wasting our time trying? I love her to death, but I understand her point of view in the fact that we're completely different. She wants to be with me, but she finds it best if we're not together anymore. Though I changed her mind and hopefully for good, I'm starting to think that maybe she was right. Maybe it really isn't going to work out. We'd make awesome best friends, but I want more than that. I'm not willing to throw a 4.5 year relationship away just for something so stupid. I wish it was just her and me. What do you think?