Help! My girlfriend and I just broke up
We've been dating for 3 or 4 months, and since just a couple weeks into our relationship I've talked about moving to NY in August. I've lived in Austin, TX all my life and really felt it was time for a change. It would be a new experience and give me more opportunities in my career.
Well I just got back from a trip to NY and decided for sure that I wanted to go. I asked her to come with me and she thought about it for a few days and decided it wasn't for her. So we had a talk today and she basically explained to me that we couldn't be together anymore because of it was just going to end eventually when I left. I told her that if by August we were still together and things were going well I would seriously consider staying for her. I really like her but we have only been together a few months so it's hard to know for sure if it's right. I feel like we have a great time together always, but neither of us have opened up to each other fully. We haven't had sex yet so maybe that's why (we both live with our parents, sad).
She said that wasn't fair to her to be in a relationship where she is wondering all the time whether I'm leaving. But I'm starting to feel like I would rather stay here and be with her than go to NY and be without her. I feel like maybe I should tell her I would stay for her for sure. But I don't know if it's worth changing my plans for a girl I've only known for a few months and haven't really opened up to. The whole thing is just frustrating, I don't know what to do. I want to be with her. Does anyone have advice?