Why does she want to be friends when she left me for someone else?
Hello all. I was in a 3 year relationship which consisted of plans to move in together as well as marriage at a later date. We were not engaged, but in my eyes the only thing missing was the ring. Our families were practically one. Everything else, the desire the motivation the ambition, was all there. Long story short, after a shitty couple of months near the end, I saw her for the last time on valentine's day. She told me she loved me and would see me tomorrow. Well, I never saw her and exactly one WEEK later, she started dating someone else. After 2 months of not leaving the house except for work (she works 3 doors down) and lots of tears, I started to recover. I truly have no interest in finding someone else (yet) but her and I also know I will never take her back no matter what. Despite this, she still texts me and calls me at times, too frenquently for just "catching up" she has not made any advances towards me, but she has wanted to spend time with me multiple times. Me, being the empathetic person I am ( or idiot depending on your pov) I spent time with her a few times. Before I continue, I want to make it known that I felt NOTHING during this time. I had no temptation to kiss, hug, or show any affection. However, it DID feel good just to talk. That's actually what I miss most. I could have had the worst day possible and then talked to her and everything was better, and the same was true for her. I was a psych major so I have my own theories but I have also learned that sometimes objective opinions can help greatly. So I'm turning to you guys for aid. I'm not "torn" or "confused" about my feelings, I'm confused about hers. Any insight, good or bad, is appreciated.