sex..

okay so for some reason im just not into it, ive been with my partner for over three years now. it was pretty go go go in the first couple of years, more than average about 10 times a weekend. but i cant even stand him touching me now..in my head im screaming what are you doing get off me. i love him but im worried that this is going to ruin it as he is obviously still in the mood for it and now feel under pressure.

i think i had a miscarraige as well a year ago, which was unplanned anyway when i was on the injection, and it shook me up a bit. what can i do to get back to normal, i cant seem to fix it. its almost like we are best friends now and lost that drive for it. ive had this problem before with someone i cared about in a past relationship.

Well sex will be a bit diminished after awhile and considering how much you were having I can see where after awhile it would feel like a chore if you weren't enjoying yourself.

If you don't mind.

How old are you?
Do you feel aroused but just not with him or not at all.

My thinking is if your aroused but not enjoying sex then maybe its time to change things and bring in something new....try different places, toys, porn, role playing, whatever your mind can think of.

i was enjoying myself back then, but i slowly started not wanting it and it deminished out and we could go months without anything intimate. im 19, and i dont feel aroused at all, the whole thought of it makes me feel quite unwell, and now even if he kisses my neck or something its like i know something is trying to be started and i avoid it.

Well your fairly young...nothing gets you turned on? Do you never have the urge to masturbate?

If thats the case then maybe you should go see a dr and get your hormones checked out...see why there is a drop in libido...Perhaps you have a naturally low sex drive but considering you said you used to have sex 10 times a weekend I'd think that is not the case.

I'd look medical and then psychological if absolutely nothing turns you on....at your age you and your husband should be humpin like rabbits...sounds like you were for awhile.

gah annoying things in life eh? if only everything was so easy to fix! haha

I almost forgot...also consider any medications you take regularly...many have a this side effect.

As well as diet and exercise....being overweight will have a tendency to reduce your sexual urges...not calling you fat...just sayin look into everything medically first.

19?

How old is he?

I guarantee you it won't last if you stay on this track, you could've at least wait until you were 50 before you started shrugging him off.

What birth control are you using now? That could be killing your libido. Also, women tangle sex up with emotional things. Are you just not into him any more?