She left me to start a new life with another man
My ex-girlfriend have been together for nearly three years before she left me.
Two years in to our relationship we got a huge problem when I discovered the game she had with guys. (talking with guys also far distant away mostly about sex but also about love and care).
When I first got to know about it and confronted her in real, she was devastated and told me she would stop it.
Later I heard from one new guy she was talking sex with (after the point where she said she would stop it) about their conversations.
By then I know she was still doing it, and once again when conftonted she told me she couldn't stop it and that she couldn't control herself,
so I allowed her to do what she wanted if she was just talking to me about it and not having any secrets.
The thing is, she just left me anyway, and she want to start a new relationship with another guy living even more far away from me.
We had just about half a year left of waiting until we finally could settle for a life we dreamed about during the whole relationship.
She met a new guy about 2 months ago, and this guy is already living with his girlfriend for many years.
Quite soon after they got to know eachother, he was falling in love with her (and she fell in love with him about a month later).
She was talking to me about this guy at the start, so I know about their talks, and I know she probably got his attention to her when talking about having some rough sex with her.
In the start the intention was to just have another guy to play with and to 'toss' (sad to use these words but that's how she treated other guys).
He was also complaining that he wasn't happy with his girlfriend, and that she was out late at nights probably cheating on him.
They have no reason which I know for beeing together because they are not married and she have a low income and he have a high income so it's not economical related either I think.
As this went on, she stopped more and more talking to me, until recently when she said she stopped loving me, and that she love him.
She told me she wanted to leave this life where she play around with guys, as it is no future for her.
Here is where I am now.
I know that this guy lives far up north, and he was grown up there and also educated and now works in this town, he never moved to another town.
She on the other hand, doesn't want to live this north but they were already talking about that he would leave his girlfriend and change job so they could start a new life together somewhere else.
His girlfriend still doesn't know anything yet as far as I know.
They are also publicly expressing their love in a game we used to play, and they also want to marry in the game (something which she did not really want to do when she was with me)
I have some great concern for them though:
I fear that she will not be able to stop her pattern with her games with the guys, and she will cheat on him as she did on me (and he will probably not allow it as I did)
At an early point in their flirt when she was still talking to me, she told me that, that he would probably not allow it. (but then later when she broke up she told me she would leave that life.)
I also fear that this guy might not be serious with her, since that he didn't tell his girlfriend yet, and obviously not broke up with her.
Even if he is willing to leave his girlfriend, it will be a big change in his life to search a new location more south to live (but probably still in the same country)
but changing work and location seems a bit weird.
They will meet within a month in real life, so she will be able to tell for sure then if she will go for him or not, and she would want me to wait until then so that she can go back to me and try again in case things wouldn't turn out to be as good as she think.
My ex was playing with a lot of guys usually sexually and also met with some in real to have some fun.
Now she say that she will leave this life because it is pointless and it isn't a future for her, and this makes me feel really bad because we had problems with this at first, and she couldn't stop it and just tried to hide it even further.
However from what I know, she is doing secret things behind his back as well, and she asked me not to talk to this guy about her past and how her life with me was.
In the late summer last year, she wanted to leave me for one guy, and actually cut the contact we had for almost two weeks, until she realized that a life with that guy was not possible (because of obsticles such as wife and kids),
a few months later she found another guy she wanted to leave me for (and almost did 4 months ago but then changed her mind).
shortly after that she was flirting with another guy which she met in real life but he was quite boring so she gave up on him too.
Then she met this guy and after 2 months she left me to start a new life with him.
That she was hurting other people is nothing I am proud of, and it actually makes me sad when I think about them (and this was before the breakup), even if I know they did things with my girlfriend.
She was sad too because of what she had done to them, that she seriously hurted the feelings of nice guys to get personal fun and other gains in the game.
What do you think,
Should I take her back if things wouldn't work between them?
Will they work out?
