Thoughts on Marriage Affairs
Why do men have affairs with the other women when they have their wives? I had seen examples of real life and in the movies where men will go back to their own family at the end of the day. He will choose and protect them from any harm if there are threats, shied them from embarrassment, regret when the affairs made public etc. Some even regretted to divorced his wife to be with his bitch. They tried to support them financially after the divorce or some try to make it up to the family when the affairs were found out.
They will how their pity face apologizing to gain your sympathy and forgiveness. Telling you they will change and stop doing that but will they really change and does it makes a difference when you had lost the trust in him? Yes, the wife might forgive him for the sake of the family or still loves him but bear in mind, it will NEVER be the same anymore. Only about 35 percent of couples remain together after the discovery of an adulterous affair; the other 65 percent end in divorce
Yes, men will defend themselves by giving excuses such as wife doesn't satisfy his needs, unwilling to try this during sex, his another part of animal can be unleash on another woman which can't be seen or known by his wife, reduce stress, unintentionally one night stand, drank too much was drunk, wife did not fulfill her responsibilities, not caring, mistakes etc. All sort of excuses are made up. Can a woman accept his apologies and pretend nothing big happened? Once he did any of that even though just by flirting or thinking of having sex with another person, he is being unfaithful. No faith no trust no love no relationship.
Excuses do not give you privilege passes to do it. Have men ever think women can do what they do too?
Why do women did not have affair as much as men? They believe in the marriage, have faith and trust their husband. But the husband tend to disappoint them. Wives can give excuses too such as husband not caring enough, can't satisfy her, not being there for her, troubles in marriage etc.
As more women are having extramarital affairs, Dr. Willard Harley believes women have five basic needs that, when not met, can be the catalyst for an affair: Affection, Conversation, Honesty, Financial Commitment, Family commitment. Many studies have shown sex is often "not" the driving factor behind infidelity. Many women seek to fill emotional voids rather than sexual voids when it comes to having affairs. It shows the husband plays a major role here. If the wives can control their sex desire towards other man and be faithful to her one and only husband, why can't the husband do that too?
Married couple should discuss and try to solve their problems together. Consultation is always an option if discussion did not work out. Everyone is not perfect and so those excuses can't be accepted in infidelity. When you two decided to be husband and wife, you should know and accepted each other's pros and cons. Don't use it as an excuse to have affairs. Don't get married in the first place if you can't stand of having sex with the same women for the rest of your life.
TOP THREE MARRIAGE QUALITIES: Honesty, Love, Trust
