I agree. We even had a whole unit dedicated to this (frames of reference) in the class I finished last semester. The idea is that 10 different people will view the same situation 10 different ways and a leader who has good people's skills should find a way to see that situation from those 10 different perspectives before making a decision and then make a decision that addresses all 10 concerns. Remember that mum vs law exercise I posted? That was from the frames of reference class. Funny enough, in the class itself we also had the same, one half of the class accused the others of betrayal, while the other half accused the accusers of criminal intent.
But to answer your question, my perception of myself differs depending on who I interact with and on the mood I'm in. Sometimes I see myself as the others see me and sometimes completely opposite. It's not a solid constant, but a fluid process.