Need some advice **warning kinda long**
Ok let me start off by saying that I am a 22 year old male who hasn't been in a relationship in about 2 years. Been on a few dates, but just haven't found anyone I really clicked with. Anyway, about 2 months ago I met this girl off yahoo personals site (yes I know kinda pathetic, but I'm getting desperate to find someone). We talked via instant messager and e-mail for about a week or two and then on the phone before meeting up. We met up and she is very attractive and fits my type to a tea. We started talking on the phone after that nearly every night for sometimes a hour or more. She is smart, attractive, hard working, responsible, seems to be honest with me, and everything I look for in a girl. After our 3rd date was coming to an end we were just standing there talking and she was kind of hitting me playfully and we ended up holding each others hands. That was the closest we have gotten up to that point and I'm not really sure how it happened, like who made the move. I came home feeling really good and kind of wanted to know how she was feeling about us. I talked to her that night online and told her that I had a great time and aksed her what she thought about making us "official". She told me that she "had feelings for me, but wanted to take it slow". So I can understand that because before me she had gotten out of her longest relationship (9 months) which sounded pretty serious. Well, we are both busy with work and school so that was the last time we have been able to meet up. About a week ago I noticed that we didn't talk on the phone nearly as much and as long as we use to. We would talk on the phone maybe twice a week for 10 minutes tops maybe. It had been 2 weeks since we last met up and she wasn't even online anymore. So I e-mailed her and asked her what was up. She replied back and said she was sorry, but she had been very busy lately. She said she wasn't online because of a computer virus, which is true because I remember her telling me about that earlier when we were talking more frequently. She said that she wants to hang out with me again, but her parents want to meet me first before we go out again. She said "I do like you, but at this point in my life I don't want any thing serious". After that e-mail we are now back to talking nearly every night for a few.
My question is what do you think is up with her? She said she doesn't use people and I told her in the e-mail that I'm not about to be used. Is she not feeling me and just too nice to tell me? Think she is still trying to get over her ex even though she tells me she is? I am willing to wait a little while till she is ready for something more serious because I really like her, but how long should I wait? I am finally over my exs and am ready NOW for a serious relationship. I'm ok with taking it slow and am not even looking for the physical part of the relationship (sex). I would just like to know that I am the only man in her life. It seems weird just being friends and knowing that she doesn't want anything more right now. Sorry for the looooooong post. Just trying to vent and get it all out on the table.
Mark
