Advice needed on Long Term Relationship
Hi, I'd really appreciate some advice on this one;
I fell in love with my girlfriend around 18 months ago when she lived in the UK. She then moved back to her home country, USA after spending around 6 months with her. She had to move back because it was just out of her hands and she had no choice really. At the time i was in no position to follow her, i had a good job, but financially i simply couldn't do it. So even though we kept in touch via email and the occasional phone call, eventually, we knew we would find other partners, which we did. Since maybe January of this year, we come to find out that we had both finished with our partners, and are now single. I had planned a road trip across the US with some friends,and we decided that i'd go see her at the end of the trip for two weeks....
As soon as she opened the door to me, all those feelings came rushing back, and we went on to have the best time either of us have ever had. We fell 'back' in love immediately and within a matter of days professed our love, and our desire to see each other again. I have since returned to the UK, and now miss her so much its actually making me feel sick. I've never felt this way about someone, and i know that deep down she is the one I want in my life forever.
Here's my dilemma. I want to move to the US to be with her, but the only way i can get a visa would be to marry her. She has a great job and has only recently started her new life in a new city, so i don't want her to move to the UK and start up all over again, although she has said she wants to. She has also said she doesn't want to get married just to get a visa, which i can totally understand, as i would be marrying her for her, not for a visa. So right now 'im tearing my hair out as i just cant see how were gonna be happy? Should i just continue the long distance relationship for as long as i can, then maybe propose? Should i ask her to move to the UK where she'd have to start up all over again, and if it doesn't work out as well as she has it now, would she resent me for it? Should i save up as much money as i can so if i do propose we can get married straight away? I really don't know what to do. All i know is that i really love her, and want to be with her, i'm just wondering if anyone else has been in this position before, and if so, could possibly offer me some advice?
Thank you