Long-Term Relationship Space

Hello,

I'm a 29 year old male that has been in a relationship for 10 1/2 years. I am disabled with Muscular Dystrophy. We started dating December of 1999 when she was a senior in High School its like she was sent from heaven. I was depressed, drinking everyday & doing drugs, nothing heavy. She cared for my every need from bathing to being there as a spouse. I graduated high school in May of 99' and was living with my parents. I was in relationships prior to her as was she. Her mom and dad divorced when she was younger so he wasnt in the picture until recently. She, her half sister & Her mother was living with a female friend of her moms. They had planned to move 17 hrs away before me, so she had college applications locally and in the state they were planning to move to. she chose to stay here and persue her carreer and relationship with me. we moved into an apartment together in june of 2000 spending day and night together, living on my disability check we had nothing but hand me downs. My mother & father were very supportive, my father having his own mechanic business always made sure i had an accessible vehicle. Her mother didnt have much to give and i understood that. She didnt have a vehicle to make her commute to college (2hrs away) where she stayed in the dorm during the week, my father found a car that she and i purchased for $700 (needed transmission). Dad installed a transmission and it served us well. I proposed in december of 2000. She finished one semester, didnt go the next semester, we went to visit her mother and ended up spending 5 weeks with them. Came home and she resumed college at a local college (45 min away) for her bachelors degree in nursing in the fall of 2001. I started working part time in feb of 2002, Her mom and sister would come visit during holidays or summer. In september of 2002 my dad was diagnosed with colon cancer, he passed in July of 2003. She has always been my rock, i am not good at talking or expressing my feeling without becoming defensive or only seeing it my way. she changed schools a few times but eventually finished her degree in may of 2005.I was always supportive of her school, but i admit i had some issues with her mom leaving her like she did grant it that it was her choice to stay with me. So with that i would feed the negativity, which wasnt right i see that now. Anyway, shes always been a homebody, reading, watching tv or movies never smoked or been drunk which i enjoyed it is one of things i love about her, i liked to go do things, not stupid things like drugs and alchohol. I do like to drink on occassion, but i wasnt completely stupid with it. Eventually her mom moved back and became a caregiver to me for income, I love her mom dearly she is good as gold. Maybe it wasnt a good idea bt whats done is done. we bought a beautiful home together in 2005.My grandmother had westnile and passsed away in 2005, Now my grandmother was the straw that kept my family together and i was lost, at the funeral my fiances mother was asking if i was going to need her the next day and i just snapped because i was not concerned with that, i was worried my entire family was about to part ways. we get the funeral over with and go home for a few days and get in our first major argument, she states she doesnt love me anymore and that she feels more like anurse than a lover that killed me because i never wanted her to feel that way. I go stay with my mom a few days, we reconciled and came to the conclusion that my mom and her mom would help with me. everything was going good or so i thought. shes working full time, im working part time we are not hurting for money. i am a go getter, shes more laid back but she ussually supportedmy crazy ideas. my cousin and i wanted to open a mma gym she supported it and we went after it. It costs us alot and it failed this may, we were going to enjoy life after we closed the doors..about 2 months ago her father came back in the picture along with her 21 year old half brother which her dad has been in jail and her brother is an alchoholic. She really enjoys spending time with her brother, she says he makes her happy, she has confided in him and im sure told him how she feels about our relationship. he has 2 daughters that live 6 hrs away he left them because of his "drug ad alchohol" addiction. i was feeling shoved out they would play xbox til 4am, she has never done that maybe because she had nobody to do it with. they go to movies he stays the night, they text constantly he doesnt have a job she says because he had wreck in feb and hurt his leg...im in a wheelchair and i work....so he wants to go see his daughters she takes him on a saturday comes back on sunday...i really dont know this guy and honestly neither does she...she has great judgement im not questioning her i dont trust him...never told her that. until sunday...im too judgemental too controlling ive made her resent me...she said maybe we need time apart, so i moved to my moms last monday..i pay all the bills for us, her mom cleans our house. weve texted alot and ive been istening to self help books..Whats going to happen??? I love her completely!!