Need Advice On Getting Back Together
Hey People, sorry for the lengthy details. I thought I should write out the background so people can give a better answer.
My boyfriend of 4 years (now an ex) liked to say "breakup" over minor things even when he did not mean it. The last time he said it, I had enough, so I took down our pictures on Facebook and deleted the email account he created for me to show him he cannot just walk all over me. Sure enough, he messaged me the next day and said he cannot be without me. I told him we should have some times apart to sort out our feelings. After a week, I went to him and said let's move on from this and be happy together. To my surprise, he did not want to be with me anymore.
At first he said
1. I am pretty and I can get any guy I want anyway.
2. I am so good to him but he was never able to do the same.
3. He is argumentative but I cannot let him win either, so he's unhappy.
Please note that he's not just saying 1 and 2 to be nice. That's why I feel crushed because there's nothing I can do about those things.
For 2 weeks, I tried to be there for him when he wanted to rant. He was really mean, but finally, he broke down and told me during our 1-week break, he met a girl on Craigslist who has a kid and is married to a gangsta, but he likes her because she's nice like me and kind of cute. He said he only went onto Craigslist because he thought we were over and was very sad about it. He wanted a rebound. He added 1 more cause to our breakup:
1. Taking pictures off Facebook was very symbolic, and since we already get to this point, we cannot go back.
We still hang out everyday. We act like lovers. He says "nobody can ever replace you", "you will always be special to me", "you are the prettiest girl even after I met other girls", "4 years..how can I ever get over you?" and "I am sad that we are not together".
For those of you who have been in my ex's position.. Is there really no way of getting back together just because something symbolic happened (the Facebook pictures)? If you left someone mostly due to your own guilt, does that mean no matter what that person does, you will not take him or her back?
My friends said I should stop hanging out with him and he will come after me, but note that I was apart from him for a week and that's when he met other girls..so I really don't know what to do. Though he's not perfect, I believe he's the one for me. Please let me know what I can do to be with him again, and whether you think he will ever want me back or not.