How do you stop 'hoping'?
Hi guys, it's been 2 months since my break up with my ex and since I began no contact. I'm at the point where I don't cry about him anymore, and can get through my days without having to constantly be occupied..but I do still think of him, at least once a day.
The thing I'm having the most trouble with is losing the feeling of 'hope'. I keep tricking myself into thinking, "He's my soulmate, we'll get back together in the future," and similar thoughts. But he's with a new girl, and he was within 3 weeks of our split..so he can't really be my soulmate, right? Cause he didn't care if he moved on that fast.
But, 'hope' is my main problem right now. He was the first boyfriend I had that I really could be myself with, and I think I'm relating that to being my soulmate. But we broke up, and there were reasons for it, so I guess he's not the one.
I'm just looking for advice on how to stop thinking that he's my soulmate/true love/"one" and get over him fully. I'm doing much better than the first month, and really have NO desire to contact him anymore, which is good. But I still struggle daily with these hopeful thoughts, so does anyone have any advice on how to stop this?
Not sure if this will help at all, but we were an LDR, he's 22, I'm 19, and we dated for 10 months, but talked for 13 months.
Thank you.