I have been with this guy since Feb. We have been friends for about a year. We have many mutual friends which is how we know each other. The problem is this other girl (mutual friend- more his than mine) who likes him and is VERY obvious about it. She texts him CONSTANTLY about stupid things, especially at night and on weekends. They hang out together, but not often- twice a month at the most and usually other people are around. There have been times when they went out alone but it was not anything major- an afternoon movie or something. They have been friends for awhile- before I even came along- so I dont expect him to cut her off. She has just recently started to act like this- and it has gotten progressively worse since him and I started dating. Whenever we are out with the group, she follows him around, laughs at everything he says, and agrees with everything he says. She even says stupid things like, "its amazing how much we have in common!". Basically, she makes me want to throw up. It has gotten so bad that other friends have said things about it- they say she "gushes" and "follows him around".
The problem is that I am getting sick of it. He tells me it doesnt matter what she thinks because he is not interested in her, never has been, and has never (in his mind) given her any indication that he is. He says that if she is getting any vibe that he is interested it is because she is reading into things that arent there.
I have been acting cool about it, letting him handle it. I dont want to be "that" girl- trying to tell him who he can and cant hang out with. And, to be blunt about it, she really isnt a threat or competition to me. Recently, she went by his place to feed his dog when we were on a trip together. (she offered it- he didnt ask). When we came back, she had left a bunch of her stuff at his place and it looked as though it had been left there on purpose. It was obvious she slept and showered there and THAT pissed me off! Then, that night, when she knew we were back, the texting was WORSE. I mean texting every 30 minutes between 7 PM and midnight.. asking him to go dinner later that week, about his opinions on movies, etc... (basically dumb stuff).
So we got into a little argument that night.. then went to bed. We didnt really "resolve" the issue in my mind, but we did sleep together that night. I left the next morning and we were nice to each other.. that was two days ago and we havent spoken to each other since. I have purposely not contacted him because the more I think about it the more mad I get. I am thinking that because we had sex that night, he thinks we are okay and the argument is over. I have been told thats the way guys think.. ??
The real issue is.. what do I do about this ANNOYING girl?? I am sick to death of it! I have been thinking of breaking up with him for the past two days about it. I have talked to him about it but I get the typical "she is my friend" and "dont be territorial" bullshit.
So- WHERE is that line between respect for the relationship and being "territorial"? At what point, if ever, does it become inappropriate to hang out alone with friends of the opposite sex? Honeslty- am I being posessive by letting this bother me? i sincerly dont want to be that way...
And.. last question.. does he think we are okay because we slept together that night after the argument? Have I been sitting around for two days pissed when he thinks things are fine?
Thanks :)
Kayla-
