Hi, So the background first. I was engaged to this girl and in a relationship for 3 and a half years. She left me earlier this year and i had to move house into a shared house and she took half my stuff. My housemate and i became close as friends getting to know each other whilst i had fun with other girls to help me get over my ex. Then at a party me and my housemate got together and told each other we had feelings for each other. Now were seeing each other and things started well.
Last week we went out for a meal and after went for a drive and she told me about her past (which i knew some of but didnt no the whole story). She told me her grandad abused her when she was younger throughout her childhood and since has only ever had one boyfriend besides me. I know shes had sex before with her ex and others from her school but she isn't being intimate with me. I told her i would wait for her until she was ready and comfortable but after two months i'm finding it difficult to wait. Am i being selfish? I would be happy to wait but she doesnt talk to me about how shes feeling or whats going on between us. And obviosuly beign male i like being intimate not just for the normal reasons but for being close to another person and feeling connected.
Shes a very independant woman and sees friends a lot in the week and family. We spend most weekends together and as we live together normally catch each other during the night. Last night she came in and said "Hey mate" which really confused me as thats not something you say in a relationship? We have only slept in the same bed once in 2 months as well and the lack of intimacy is starting to get to me. I like to kiss, cuddle and do more but dont want to hurt her. My sister said i should talk to her about it but my friends say i will scare her off and suggested i should try it on with her to see what happens. I don't know what to do and dont want to hurt her but i want our realtionship to move forwards. I'm not asking for sex straight away but 'fooling around' and exploring each other or just cuddling in bed would be good. Please help Thanks