Do I have a right to be upset?
I should probably post an intro first, but I'm going to skip that part for now. I'm a woman, dating a man 6 years younger then I am. We are currently in a long distance relationship with plans to move in together. Things have been going great, but recently something has come up that has really put me on my guard as well as made me question my trust in him. He's always been very open and honest with me except for this one thing.
Recently, I was talking to him on MSN and he seemed really distracted so I asked him if everything was ok. He said he was fine, that he was just talking to a couple other friends of his too. A couple of women, but he made it sound like he'd known them for some time. One lives in a different state then him, the other it turns out lives quite near him. I didn't really think anything of it.
A couple days later, he invited this girl to go out on a boat with him and some friends because he wanted to meet her. I was confused since I had been thinking they'd known each other for a while. He didn't lie to me about the length of time he'd known her, but he hadn't told me either. After I asked about it, he told me that he had only known her a short time, had met her on a forum. I asked if she knew about me. He said no. I found out they had also exchanged pictures and have been talking pretty often. When I found out he'd invited her out without her even knowing about me, I was upset. This girl is closer to his age, already lives nearby, and had no idea about me.
Do I have a reason to feel so insecure about this? He did tell her about me after I talked to him about it. He said that he told he was in a LDR with someone. I don't know how much else he told her about me, probably not a lot. After all this, I was very uncomfortable with him meeting her in person. We talked about it for a long time, and then he decided it would be best to wait to meet her until I was moved out there so that he could meet her with me there. He says he's just looking for more friends.
A few more days later, I talk to him on the phone. He says that he found out where she works and wants to go meet her there. I was totally caught off guard. I had thought it was settled. I told him that he knew how i feel about it. I wasn't going to tell him no, but I was very uncomfortable with the whole situation. He got off the phone soon after saying that he wasn't sure if he would go see her or not. After talking later, he says he meant after I got there, that hey might not want to meet her at all, but meant that maybe he would meet her after I moved in in a couple months.
I'm feeling very insecure at this point. I don't like the way things changed there, saying he wasn't going to meet her until I was there, and then asking me if he could, and then saying he wasn't sure. I'm also not at all comfortable with him having exchanged pictures with her and that he didn't tell her about me before inviting her out. Am I just being paranoid? At this point, I get very apprehensive even knowing he is still talking to her at all. I don't like this situation and I need to know if I'm over reacting.
