Can anybody shed a light on this? :)
I have previously posted on here about my now ex partner dumping me and being heartbroken etc.
Basically my now ex boyfriend and father of my child broke up with me nearly a month ago. He said he 'wasn't in love with me anymore'. The night he told me he also admitted he'd been speaking to a girl from his work who i'd never heard of before about OUR relationship problems. He said he doesn't have many people to talk to (which is true) and he found he just got on well with this girl. At around 2am I came down the stairs to get some water and his phone was next to him, I challenged him because he never has his phone next to him, he tried to prove there was nothing in it by showing me the screen and there was a text from her on it from 1:30am saying "I'm good thank you, yeah I know the score, thinking of you xx" By this time I was so confused.
The following 7-10 days he spent all his wages on junk and ended up with no money. He had nowhere to go and asked if he could stay at my house until he could get sorted. I had to agree because this man has NO ONE, he has no family, nothing. So I have had him at my house for the past couple of weeks, during this time he has been very suspicious carrying his mobile phone everywhere and sleeping with it in his pocket?! (Something he's never done). Going outside for cigarettes and shutting the door which is something again he'd never done. He's out there for ages. And he's also been going to the toilet a hell of a lot and is up there for ages. I never mentioned anything because otherwise he's been very grateful, helping me out with the baby, cleaning up etc. BUT the other night he had a bath and his PJ's didnt have any pockets for his phone... so... when he went for cigarettes he was only out there a couple of minutes and he left the back door open and hardly went to the toilet! And I know I shouldnt but curosity gets the better of me I quickly clicked onto his contacts in his mobile phone and this girl was the last person he had texted!
I aksed him whether he was still texting her to which he mentioned "Last time was a couple of days ago" a lie! I told him that he's the opportunity to tell me the truth now because I don't want him telling me in a few months he's with her - that'd be a kick in the teeth. To which he told me he "wouldnt have thought he'd be with her but how do I know whats gonna happen months in advance" Surely you would know whether she was girlfiend material right?! He said she "wasn't all that" but he "liked her as a person" and he mentioned he'd get her to ring me if I didnt believe him and that she had a date saturday night. I told him I didnt think hed tell me anyway because he'd be asked to leave my house and he's got nowhere to go. I'm so confused, people are telling me that because this guy has NOTHING why would he just throw it all away and refuse to even try again without there being a reason. I'm feeling like why should I help this guy if he's doing this? But is it really obvious he's doing something or am I just paranoid because i'm hurting?
And to make matters more confusing last night he out of the blue said to me last night "You wouldnt have me back though would you, not now?" To which I replied "No". And he asked me again "But would you have me back?" and then answered it for himself saying "You said no didn't you". I replied "I wouldn't because you told me you 'didn't love me anymore' and your untrustworthy". Although I don't want him back, I feel he's messing with my head. But I want to know whether it's me or not if that makes sense.
Any advice would be grateful thank you :)
