Is she still interested?

I met this woman and we started hanging out. We noticed we had an amazing connection. Got along very well and had many things in common and smiled and laughed about everything. We both come from a beautiful italian family and live in the same town. We have been out to dinner and movies and even hung out at my house a few nights. We texted back and forth alot and responded to each other nearly instantly. She even insisted she wanted to see me more before she would leave for vacation, so we hung out the night before she left for her month vacation. While on vacation she called me 4 or 5 times and we talked for nearly 2hrs each time. When she returned she texted me as soon as she got the airport to let me know she is safe. While returned home her texts are not responded quickly like they used to and her texts says she either forgot her phone and not used to having her phone near her. We have planned to hang out again for dinner, I called her that night, not answer but i left a message asking if 7 was ok with her, but she called a few hours later and asked to reschedule for the next night which I said was ok. The next night I texted and no respond. She replied the next day saying she forgot her phone at her cousins and said she is sorry. I have not responded back to her yet... Should I text or call?

Wow - do you believe her? It's really hard now a days to believe that all of a sudden you don't have your phone around you. ALMOST everyone has a phone and if she used to use it so much in the beginning tells me that she always has hers. Maybe once I can see but more than that, seems kind of fishy. You don't sound like you are all the way "in" on this relationship so I would send a text back saying something to the effect that it's okay, just let me know when you want to hang out. Throw it back on her and if you don't hear anything then you know. IF she does reply, let her call the shots, ask her what time and where, that way you can reply to her if you can make it or will be late.

Would it be better to call instead? besides I do have a wedding coming up and I planned on asking her to come with me when we were supposed to hang out.

You should ALWAYS prefer calling instead of texting-- too many things can go wrong (or be interpreted the wrong way) if you're texting.

Apart from that: I second what sasharose said, it sounds a bit fishy that she's no longer having her phone on her all of a sudden.

As for the wedding idea: Don't you think that's a bit of an overkill given the fact that she's kind of withdrawing from you?

Give her some space, give her some time to miss you-- if she doesn't react, then you know that you shouldn't be getting yourself any deeper into this.

Well I figured if I ask her for the wedding and she says yes than Im in and if she says no or even hasitates to even think about it than I have an idea where I stand.

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Originally Posted by loveatsight [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

Well I figured if I ask her for the wedding and she says yes than Im in and if she says no or even hasitates to even think about it than I have an idea where I stand.

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Yeah, well, I can't disagree with that: That's certainly ONE way to find out. Nonetheless, given the circumstances right now, I'd go with a different approach.

But don't take what I say for granted, you asked for female advice, and I certainly have a pair of balls. ;)

What different approach do you recommend Progressus?

I think you should stop contacting her for a bit. Either she really IS forgetting her phone all the time, or she's hitting "Ignore" on her ringer. Either way, she's flip-flopping which makes it really difficult to get any sort of relationship off the ground.

The more you call or text, the more needy you look, and that's never attractive. Give her a chance to reciprocate. Hopefully, you'll hear from her in a few days time (or sooner). If you do, leave the ball in her court. Tell her how much you enjoy being with her, and to let you know when she has time to go out again. DO NOT beg her to pencil you in as it will only backfire on you.

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Originally Posted by loveatsight [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

What different approach do you recommend Progressus?

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Just take a look at what lahnnabell said, that's exactly what I'd suggest too.

You sound slightly naive. Just leave her to go to you!
Sometimes when people come back from a trip they either really miss you or have no interest, I have this problem reccurring when a guy aint interested after he's been
away a while. I have no clue what's going on there but she's standing you up I think so back away from her, show no interest. If nothing happens, move on..
Shit happens like this

I wouldn't text or call, and definitely wouldn't ask her to the wedding - she's been a bit flaky about not responding and cancelling plans, she's proved to be a little unreliable and could back out on you at the last minute, even if she said Yes when you asked her.

She seems to be preoccupied at the moment, so I would let her contact you. If she does contact you, take things slowly and let her guide things and suggest when to get together so you can make sure she really wants to meet up.