I need a man's advice
Hello there!
I wanted to see if maybe you can help me out understanding my boyfriend.
Now, he is 11 years' older than me, he has a 14 year old kid from a previous marriage that ended in divorce after 18 years. Since he's had a couple of relationships and a few flings.
Fair enough, I've never been one for short stories and I tend to concentrate on my career. Nevertheless I was in a realtionship for 5 years which ended a year and a half ago.
We were not on the same wavelength at all and I'm quite an energetic person and he was rather lazy, so after a few frustrating years, it was time to end it.
Now, my new boyfriend is completely different, first he is caring, loving, helpful, attractive, funny, many an adjective I can use.
We've been together for 5 months and I start noticing that he is trying to slowly move into my daily life, trying to make it discretely. It was just about, one night here, one afternoon there, him telling me that he didn't want to go to quickly as he was hurt too often and wanted to take it slow.
Far enough, I have a house to renovate and I was quite happy to see him a few times a week and none of us was getting stressed, we could^both go about our normal activities.
The last few weeks, I have noticed though that he has been making hints about moving in together, left shirts and throusers at my place if he staid without warning.
Then this morning, he said that he could see himself having a little girl with me.
Wow, now I really do love him and I've never felt as comfortable with anybody before but I have to say that I'm a bit scared.
I made it clear to him from the start that kids are not part of my plans, not only for career reasons but because of a rather bad family history.
Can you explain what's going on?
