My EX left me for new man
I have been with my ex for almost 5 months. At first she didnt show me that she love me but eventually her wall came down and she told me she is now in love with me. I was her first love taking her virginity. I love her very much. Everything was good until I have decided to go into the Marine. At first she told me she would wait on me no matter what..but when we sit down with a recruiter he told us that i'm going to be gone for a while and wont be seeing my girlfriend much after deployment. She got really sad afterward..and tings began to go down-hill. She text a lot to her friends and I got jealous and confront her. She began to get annoy like REALLY bad. Her affection toward me also change. She dont want to hold hand, kiss or even have sex. Then we had the talk and she told me she could not be with me anymore, she has lost her feeling toward me. I asked her why..she told me, "u going to go for many years what the point if i grow too attache to u and then oneday u be gone" I try to make a deal with her that I wont join the marine but go to college..but she still disagree and tell me to go and chaise my dream..dont give up for her. Then couple days later i've found out there is this guy she text to all the time was supposedly her friend..they were getting on and on. He text her that he misses her a lot. And she reply back, "i miss u alot too..i can't get u out of my mind" and on and on..etc. Then a week later without any contact, i decided to contact her again..telling her that i have made a decision to stay home and go to school and want to be back with her. She told me, I stand with my decision to stay single, I feel happier like this.
So to sumarize everything: Is she telling me the truth that she no longer love me? I thought love didnt fade away so quickly
2. Is this guy a rebound or she really like him?
3. Will i ever win her back even if they go out?
4. She say she is too young, should i just disappear completely for 2 years and come back with her in the future when she is more mature? She is only 18 and I'm 21.
5. Is 21 too young to be worrying about this?