the word "confused" just doesn't cut it...long post, but please read :)
Hey guys I am new to the forums and came looking for some advice... here's the story, it is long but I wanted to be as specific as possible so that you can have a good idea on what is happening and hopefully help me out.
I started going out with an ex-coworker. We used to see each other every day, but never had a real friendship going on. I did like her but she had a boyfriend at the time so I never tried anything. We both changed jobs and recently we starting talking more often and so.
By now we have already gone out 3 times.
1. I was at work and was talking to her via IM, it was like 9pm 2-3 weeks ago. Somehow we started talking about food and she said she was in the mood for hot chocolate, so I said, let�s go get one... she was surprised but did not hesitate to agree... we went to Denny's (only place open at that time in Heredia, Costa Rica that sold hot chocolate). We had a nice time, I do think we hit it off nicely, never stopped talking, no awkward silence and laughed a lot. Anyway, I drove her home, said good night and nothing happened...
2. Last Friday night, I got off work earlier and she was online. Asked her if she wanted to go out for dinner and she again agreed without giving it much thought... we went for dinner at a Mexican place, talked a lot, laughed a lot...all good. She then asked if my "temporary roommate" (he is on vacation and needed a place to stay) would mind if we went home because the place was a bit loud and we could not talk (they had live music). I said, no I am sure he won�t mind...so we came to my place...
She asked a lot about my ex (she broke up with me 3 weeks ago, cheated on me while on vacations, never included me on her plans, never really took the relationship very serious, etc. etc.)... So she asked questions about how I was with her, how she was with me, if we enjoyed the time together, if I was a good BF etc, etc.... She then told me about her ex (broke up 7 months ago) and how she was very happy she was no longer with him, she told me all the bad things he had and how obsessive and jealous he was...time went by and it was already 2:30am!! I drove her home, said good night and nothing happened...
****At this point u should be thinking what�s wrong with me, why haven�t I tried anything... well I am a bit shy and after being in a long relationship I think I am kind of rusted on this area....I guess I am just afraid that she just sees me as a friend and will reject me if I try to kiss her or tell her how I feel....Anyway onto date 3..****
3. It was Sunday on that same weekend. She texted me asking what was I doing, I said "not much, how about u"...she said she wasn�t doing much as well...so I asked if she wanted to come over since I rented some movies and bought snacks and that if she wanted she can use the couch (recliner) that she liked so much :) ... she said she loved to but that she had to wake up at 6am next day to go to work, to which I replied "I'll pick u up in 30min and get u home by 10'' ...she said yes again without giving it much thought.
I get to her house, she looks amazing like always and we head to my place...like you should know by now, conversation is never a problem between us, so we talked about random stuff on the drive home.... we get to my place, go to the movie/office/computer room where the couch is and she sits on it and tells me how she is planning to steal it hehe� I go get some drinks and the snacks I had already bought let her choose the movie and we start to watch it...
I was sitting next to her, soon she leaned on me and I hugged her. Started playing with her hair, etc, etc u know what I mean... she then moves and sits a bit further where I can�t reach.... so THIS IS WHEN I START TO DOUBT... every time I tried to get closer, or "accidentally" touch her hand, she would move away...Anyway we watched the movie and starting talking, listening to music, watching funny videos in YouTube, we were having fun and next thing u know it�s 1am and she is still here!...So we made the decision to skip work and spend the rest of the day together...
Time passed and we then went to sleep...since "temp roomie" is using one of the rooms in the house I offered her my bed and said that I would sleep on the couch....she said that we both fit on the bed and that I could stay with her :D (I was pretty happy at this point, confused, but happy...don't get me wrong, I had no intentions of having sex with her at this point, even though I would like that very much lol..I usually don't rush things and I think she was aware that I was not gonna try to go at it).... so we are there, talking and then she just turns around and next thing I know all I can see is the back of her head! I begin to wonder what�s up with this girl and for a moment I almost gave up and went to sleep... I put my arm around her to try to bring her closer but got absolutely no response/feedback from her...at that point I turned around and went to sleep...
The next day she was acting weird, I don�t know if it was because she skipped worked and felt bad about it but she was very distant and every time I tried to get closer/ touch her, she would move away....and conversation topics started to lack at this point.
Later that day she had to go to class...we went to pick a friend of hers and because it was raining I offered to drop them at school. When we got there, she got off the car, and she kissed me, not in the cheek, not in the mouth, but right in between, you know where the 2 lips come together, like on the edge (don�t know how to say that specific part of the body in English lol, but you get the point :)) she then said goodbye and left.....
We have talked about 2 times via IM and she seems very uninterested.....so I don�t know what to think!!
Thank you very very much for reading this far and I am really looking forward for your thoughts..I really like this girl and would like things to get better between us..
Rob.
