2 Year Relationship Instantly Ended
I just had a two year relationship take a unexpected turn into pure misery. I am 22, she is 21 and majoring in theater arts. I met this girl about two years ago at a friends party. I had never seen her before, but we did go to the same high school. I was instantly attracted to her and knew i wanted to get to know her better. We met a few more times through friends and started to talk and get to know each other. So we became friends over the next 2 months before we had started dating. We started dating and it was a little difficult to plan when we could see each other. Living with roommates was not exactly the privacy we needed to relax and enjoy each others company. I would say about 3/4ths of a year went by and we were as happy as can be. I told her i wanted to get my own place so we could have somewhere to be alone and she agreed it was a fantastic idea. Then our first anniversary came and went. It had already been a whole year and i couldn't have been more in love with this girl. I land a good job making more than enough to pay for an apartment. A month after our first anniversary i moved into my own apartment. I was so excited that i had achieved exactly what i planned for us. I told her she could come and stay with me whenever she wanted. So she started staying with me, which turned into practically living with me. I was working 5 days a week 8-10 hours a day. She had part time work as a waitress and school and rehearsals for her performances. It started to become an every day routine. I would tell her every morning that i loved her and that i would see her soon after work. She always replied with the same. There were a few bumps in the road along the way. She had a problem about drinking and driving that would make me so worried and angry. I explained to her that i loved her so much and didn't want anything to happen. She fought me about why she should be able to. In the end i got the best of her. She would ask me sometimes after i got out of work if i wanted to go to the bar or to the club. I was always so exhausted from work i just wanted to get off my feet and relax. I never liked her being out and drinking, because she would always over due it almost every time. So she held a grudge against me for a while about not wanting to go out for a drink. That problem ended for a while and resurfaced only one other time causing another fight. The relationship got back on track and we were happy again, for a few months. Then i started noticing a change in her attitude. She complained of being constantly tired and didn't want to be touched or bothered. She didn't want any affection whatsoever. We started having sex less often than we usually did. When we would go to bed, she would turn her back to me and not even say a word. I would lay next to her wondering what the problem was, but she said it was nothing. Some times if i tried to cuddle with her, she would just tell me not to or sigh and shrug me off. It was rare to hear her say i love you before going to sleep. I didn't know what it was so i thought maybe she was just really tired. This lasted for about 2 months. She would tell me she loved me when i told her. She was happy when i would take her out to dinner. I would bring her flowers to give after her theater performances and she would always give me a big hug an a kiss. I thought she was happy again. Then just like that, she told me she was bored of me and needed time to get her life together. She was being very shallow and never explained anything to me. I brought her flowers and she told me not to be buying her stuff. I tried calling her and she would only get mad and tell me to stop calling. She started going out a lot and drinking with her friends again. I confessed my love to her and told her that if only i knew she felt this way i would have done anything to fix any problems in our relationship. She tells me that she just doesn't need a relationship right now. She never came out and told me that she was falling out of love with me. She never said that there was a problem. She just kept it all in and let it out on me all at once. What did i do wrong here :(
