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commitment issues
I am 32 yr old male and I have been dating my girlfriend (who is an attractive 29 yr old) for 6 months long distance. We see each other every few weeks.
I am having a few concerns that are really stressing me out.
1. she has had a quite permiscious past (sometimes I think I am comfortable with it but it keeps coming up and bothers me a lot). she tells me she has never felt love before she met me. I guess I never thought the mother of my children would have such a history. I am also concerned it indicates some deeper issues.
2.she is insistant that I am her soulmate and has thought so after 2 months. Marriage is a big committment as far as I am concerned. She has explained she is nearly 30 and she has biological pressure. I am just not sure if I was in the right place at the right time but she insists she has never felt so connected before.
3. She has had elements of low self esteem, whinging and dramatising trivial events.
4. she wants me to move in with her ASAP.
I am so confused as to what to do.
Advice please!!!!!!
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6 months is a really short time. i didn't move in with my bf until we had been together for over 2 years. this girl has some self-esteem issues which is evident by her pressuring you to move so fast in this relationship. her reasons for wanting to do these things are not acceptable reasons...they are selfish reasons. she's almost 30 and is probably getting worried that she hasn't found someone yet, so she's projecting her fantasies onto you because she wants so badly for them to be true. it will only create tension and resentment when she realizes that you can't live up to her expectations. either tell her that these types of commitments are really serious/important to you and you do not want to rush into them, or tell her you don't feel the same way and move on. take your time...trust your instincts. i personally see this behavior as a big red flag, but it's up to you.
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These commitment issues might be justified . . . 6 months and you only see each other every few weeks? also she seems to be kinda rushing things, wanting you to move in with her and this 'biological pressure' - what does that mean? kids?