hi
So I met this girl and we instantly clicked. We became very close as friends, best friends in fact, but she had a boy friend of 3 years. However, I soon found out that he cheated on her with a GUY! As a friend I instantly told her to move on, but she gave him another chance. And soon after he manipulated her into getting back together with him, he did it again. She broke up with him, but in time she took him back again. He had some hold on her (i guess because he was her first love)
Eventually her and I began to grow feelings for each other and she left him for me. We were dating for a few months and then her ex began to call her and message her. He wanted to remain friends, which was fine by me, but then she began to do very sketchy things involving him. For example, she would ignore me if I call her and she was with him. She would also spend the night at his place as well. She knew how much this made me feel insecure and she promised not to stay over. However, she would still do it anyways. She still stayed true to me and her ex began to get frustrated so he broke their friendship. He still had feelings for her. During his dissapearence things got better for us and we became very committed to each other. Then her ex showed up in her life again and she automatically accepted him. This frustrated me and I guess my insecurities drove her away and she wanted to be drop the "title. This means that we were still intimate, but not official. Not even two weeks later I found out that she spent the night with her ex after a night of drinking. It was clear what had happened, and she even admitted it.
At that point I was heartbroken even more so. I began to drift from her and she even started dating another guy. After being mistreated by her ex and this new guy at the same time, she realised what she had with me and we began dating again. We were official again and her ex was out of the picture because once again he couldnt take the fact that she did not want to have a relationship with him. WE made a deal that we wont allow anyone, who makes either of us feel insecure, to be apart of our lives.
Things have been great since, until lately. She allowed her ex to come back in her life again. she broke our rule. But this time things seem to be different. She proves to me that I have nothing to worry about. She isnt acting the way she was before. I really do trust her, but again I allow the past to get in the way. Her ex is also beginning to have feelings for her again, but she has clearly stated what she wants from him, a friendship. I really dont know what to think anymore. Like they are friends, but because of their past, they seem to act like they are in a relationship. I know this because I went through her phone (I know its bad, but I couldnt help it). The way they text each other, doesnt seem like a normal friendship, and they even have fights at times, as if they were together.
Am I getting too ahead of myself? Will my relationship with her last? Why is it that she can never say no to him? any advice would be great. thank you.
I appologise for the long post. Its been a hell of a story.
