Me and my fiance have been together going on 8 years. From the beginning up untill about 2 years ago, we were both neutral in our relationship. We would come to understandings, not all the time see eye to eye, but we talked, worked things out, and there was a balance. However the past 2 years, its like he has turn into a monster. He has became really agressive. If things dont go his way, he throws temper tantrums along with threats. If you do this I'll blah blah blah. He always has something negative to say it seems, and I feel im tip toeing around his tempers to avoid him over reacting. He has become really controlling. Tried talking about this with him, and his response is if everyone knows i get upset eaisly, they why does everyone piss me off? I replied why should anyone have to watch what they say or do because of your reactions? Lately I have been looking to start a career and become a paralegal, and he listed atleast 10 negatives off the top of his head as to why I shouldnt.. He tells me he loves me, im beautiful, and sweet and caring, but with a blink of an eye he will flip out about anything! We do live together, for 4 years now, and im feeling really miserable. He over reacts, over critizes, everyones an idiot, and if hes pissed enough he brakes things. Im not interested in even kissing him because everything just seems to flash in my mind of things hes done just that day alone, and then he gets mad cause I dont want to kiss him......... Im not looking for a way out, but looking for advice maybe how can I stabilize this releationship. Im willing to try anything to make it work. Im a really mellow person, and 2 years later i dont think the most calmest of person could want to tolerate this any longer. Also I have told him if this persists, he can walk or I will. What can I do?
