Mismathced affairs

Marriages happen either through personal choices or through social arrangements.

But suddenly something happens. If we are really honest most of us feel so despite the fact that we refrain from admitting it to one another.

When we are in a sexual relationship with our spouses we dream of others at the same time and imagine we are wronlgy paired and it would have been better had this relationship with others than our own spouses.

Honestly though I know I will be reproahced here I speal that I feel like that and some of my intimate (both sexes) have the same opnions as I do.

How can we manage this? By fliriting with others or making our own spouses or fiances more alluring?