epiphany - why our exes are always over the break up before us

So last night I came to an epiphany and the reason why our exes seem to be better, more whole, more over the breakup than we are is because they control when the breakup occurred, they control when the healing begins and when they accepted the fact that it was over.

So..what have I learned from all of this -- the healing begins the day you accept that its over and take control of your emotions and focus on healing. While our exes have been focusing on healing since day 1 - we have been spending the last 1,2,3 ... months focusing on what went wrong? Do they want me back? What do I need to do to get them back? Interesting thought that I wanted to share.

Though I agree with the fact that spending time asking yourself questions is useless, isn't the first thing obvious? Ex-es that broke up with you, were over it before the break up.