Still in love with my first "real" girlfriend 3+ years ago
I'm 28 and I think about my ex constantly. We dated for 2 years more than 3 years ago. It was a tumultuous relationship, but she loved me so much and she told me that all the time. Things kept adding up, and I eventually broke it off with her. (Neither of us cheated, but we were both very immature).
I ran into her on New Years at a club, and it tore me apart seeing her. I was even thinking about her at the time, and sure enough, I saw her come out of a crowd of people. I tapped her arm and said hello, and we spoke very briefly. I later sent her a text message to see if she was still in the club, and she replied saying that she wasn't interested in dating me anymore. I left the club just as they were doing the countdown.
It kills me inside knowing that I let a beautiful girl go (that loved me so much ) 3+ years ago. I tear up just writing that line. Some of the best memories that I have are with her, and that is the one chapter of my life that I will never forget. I constantly look into my future and see myself with her.
I think I need serious help because I can't get her off my mind, not even from my dreams. She knows that I want to date her again, but what she doesn't know is that I am deeply in love with her STILL. Her birthday is coming up and I don't know if I should just come clean and tell her that I love her and really want her back. What I'm afraid of is her revealing stories of the men she has dated, telling me the number of people she has had sex with, and sharing intimate stories that are not my business. This would destroy me from the inside out.
I thought that when you leave someone you get over them with time...