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Can't stop thinking what she's doing, if she's talking to the next guy she met on new years, if theyre dating, she said she thinks they like eachother but how? they don't know eachother more than 2 days? I dont want to see her next week in all my classes, i can change them but i dont want to becasue the thought of losing her forever is too hard. She said she loves me, but its time to move on, no more living a lie. What should i do
Change your classes, stop talking to her, remove her from Facebook or whatever, stop wondering what she's doing. You said yourself that it's time to move on, so completely remove her from your life.
harder said then done. it really really is. i dont know if i could. but i should
No, it's really not. Man up and do it. You know it's better for you. The alternative to cutting all contact is to hang around her like a sad puppy so you get to witness her developing new relationships and being happy without you. Do you really need to see that?Quote:
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It sounds like you're having a really hard time with this, and I can relate. My girlfriend broke up with me a month ago, it sounds similar. We knew we both still liked each other and wanted to stay 'friends'. We tried that for a while, and I was miserable. Going through the exact same thing you are. Obsessing over her, trying to think what she was doing, how she felt about me, if we might get back together someday, etc.
Then she left for a week to go to China and we had absolutely NO contact. During that time, I completely got over her and I am much better now. I'm so glad she went, because I would never have had the strength to stop talking to her on my own.
Please trust me on this, you need to move on. The less contact you have with her the better. I'm not saying you have to never speak to her again, only for a while.
What you need is to tell yourself that, for now, she is completely gone from your life. You have to get yourself to believe that no matter how hard it is.
Believe me when I say that I know what you're going through is HELL on earth and I know it's not easy. But I promise, it will get better. That's for sure.
Some suggestions. Hang out with other people, especially girls if you can. I'm not saying you should date anyone, but it will help anyway. Just remind yourself that you have a whole life ahead of you and this will pass, even if it takes a while. Keep yourself distracted.
Hang in there.
Try a romantic gesture woman love that actions speak louder then words
thanks you guys, Yea your right storm troopa, I hung with my friends today, some of them had the same problems and they made me stronger already, I Think that i can get over her really fast, and understand that its over. I got a message from my course coordinator and all positions are full within my program, so i cant change them, But i am strong and i beleive that if i can get over her even if she is around me, then i will be a whole lot stronger because i have now accepted the fact that it is actually over! I mean it's out of my hands and if someone can change like that in an instant from one day telling me she loves me, then going clubbing and giving some guy her number and starting to talk to him after we slept together a week ago and been in love for the past 2 years, thats bull shit. I dont even know if she is talking to him or what she is doing, and right now at this moment i don't give a crap. She can do whatever she wants, and someone will eventually come to me who has a beautiful heart and soul to share.