how to make sure we're NOT friends
I have decided to say goodbye to the friend zone. I've been hiding in it for too many people to make sure they like me.
Because of a lack of assertivity with women, I've been taken advantage of (as a nice guy) and have never been succesful in my approach.
So I'm trying to make things right and avoid being friendly to women I don't want as friends.
I'm gonna put my new approach in practice, starting next week. I want to approach new girls I have never met, with the intention of being lovers and not platonic friends.
In the early conversations, I think women can't tell what a guys' intentions are. Both the lover and the friend are friendly and build comfort in the first ours of contact.
BUT
Where is the point where the guy makes sure he wants to be lovers and NOT just friends? I am nearly 25 but I have never taken this step and I want to.
Is just telling her " I'm not looking for friendship with women " too direct?
Lately I've tried to ask a girl out on a private date. I thought that was a good way to make my point clear. She replied by changing the subject, not even saying yes or no. I ignored her after that and now she's running back after me.
I just want to know where I'm at without running in circles