my boyfriends best friend just died a few days ago
I've been with my boyfriend for a year now and one of his really good friends just died. He's been good friends with him since we were 15 (18 now) and he sees him at the gym like everyday. He actually set him up with his girlfriend of 3 years. Well the friend who died and his girlfriend were on a break when he passed away but anyways, my boyfriend hangs out with his girlfriend about once a week. They have been good friends for a while they actually had a small passed before I came into the picture and they go to the same school and even have classes together. Now my boyfriend and I are very close so I have complete trust in him so them two hanging out is not a problem with me. But now that her boyfriend/ my boyfriends really good friend passed away, he feels the need to spend everyday with her, helping her cope and being her shoulder to cry on. He is a paulbearer at the funeral and is going to hold her hand when they are sitting and be there for her. The two of them have been going to his (Boyfriends friend) house everyday to comfort his family and just spend time. The problem is I live an hour and a half away. I just moved here 4 months ago for college I came home the night after he found out and I let him cry in my arms and we talked about everything and we were passionate and the next afternoon we spent all day laughing and having a great time. Now I am back at school and he is hardly speaking to me and told me last night that he doesnt want to be attahced to anyone right now, not me or his family. I don't know how to take that because I feel like he has attached himself to his friends family and his friends girlfriend. I trust him but I know these things can pull people apart and maybe push people together. Should I be worried about things with my boyfriend and I? We are in a very serious relationship but I am scared cause he is the only person I really have but I feel like I don’t have him right now. He even told me he didn’t want me at the funeral. I don’t know what to do. I've talked to him for a few seconds on the phone at least once a day but its kind of just hi, bye, and a pushed i love you. I tell him every time that i am here whenever he needs me and he tells me not to worry. I know he just needs space but should I be worried? He is the only person I have to talk to.:(