I thought things were going so well, please please please give me some advice!!
This is a bit long, so please do bear with me - short version is there's this guy who I slept with, spent time with since, kissed since, gone back to mine with twice with nothing happening for different reasons - who emailed his friend a few weeks ago saying he 'really wished' he hadn't slept with me, even though all this has happened since! Here's the long version:
I met a guy in mid December at a conference in Manchester - we got talking at the pub after, with everyone else there, and hit it off a bit I thought. As people were leaving, we decided to go on to somewhere else, just the two of us - we chose one of Canal Street's lovely gay clubs! So we were in there, got to a bit of kissing and touching etc, but nothing heavy.
So, we left and were walking back to both of our places, which were coincidentally in the same direction! At this point, we'd had a couple of pints each and walked for almost an hour, so were essentially sober. So, we got back to his front door and, instead of goign in like I think we were both expecting, I said good night, see you tomorrow etc. he asked to kiss me good night, we did and that was it for that night.
The next evening, a group of us went out again and this time we got separated - we'd had a couple of pints each again and walked home the same way, so were sober again! This time, I went in to his and I stayed the night - he started it in his room, which I think is important! SO I left the next day, I texted him a couple of times but it was a little dry and serious, sadly.
I saw him again about three weeks ago when we were at an event in Newcastle - again, night out after, in the club, he comes up to me and kisses me. He also gets with a couple of other people that night, as do I, and nothing could happen because we were staying with different friends, with other people etc.
I've seen him once or twice a week since, as we have the same close friends, and a couple of weeks ago he came back to mine, despite the fact that his was much closer... Unfortunately, I had other people staying so nothing happened. He came back to mine on Thursday again, but we were both extremely drunk and basically passed out. He is sleeping with other people and has his eye on one or two other people, so do I - that's not my problem.
I thought that things were going quite well through this, we're always friendly and genuinely get on well. I'm not looking for anything in particular, I must add. However, someone showed me an email that they'd seen from him to someone else, the night after I kissed him in Newcastle early this month, saying this about me: "[Last night, I kissed] the one I said I'd slept with but really wish I hadn't. Appears that when things get heated, anything can happen!"
I am very very confused. The first two days I met him, we were completely sober, I said no on the first night - I don't understand why he would regret it. He came onto me in his room and, on the first night, said he had wanted to kiss me as soon as we started talking in the pub. And everything that happened since, I really need some advice! We're getting to be quite good friends, I just need to know what people make of this.
Thank you so much everyone :)
